I have a question for anyone who engaged in long term chastity. I noticed that my cock seems to be shrinking and at the same time my balls seem to be swelling. Has anyone else experienced this? Or is it all in my imagination?
My husband and I have been playing with chastity devices (aka cock locks) off and on for almost 10 years. We both seem to enjoy the temporary power exchange it brings to our relationship. In his normal life, he is a highly driven/motivated/assertive classic Type A personality. At times, his Type A personality carries over into our relationship with me feeling like one of his 'employees'. lol. Placing him in a chastity device leads to an immediate role reversal. Men have a strong attachment to their cocks. When they are no longer able to touch their cock, masturbate or become erect, it becomes a huge 'mindfuck.' The moment that lock clicks on the device, he realizes he has lost ownership over his cock. It becomes mine for as long as I choose. There have been times that he's been locked up for as little as 2-3 days, or as long as a month. I can tell you this.. The longer he is kept in chastity, the more attentive, accommodating and submissive he becomes. I never tell him how long he will be locked up for. This usually drives him crazy and leads to plenty of begging and bargaining on his behalf. IMO to be effective, the device needs to kept on for longer periods of time as opposed to a day or so. Most men can tolerate not having access to their cock for a few short days. The breaking point seems to be about 7-10 days for most men I have played with. That's not to say that I don't have sex or orgasms during this period. I will usually force him to service me with his tongue and fingers, or watch me get off using my vibrator. There are other times when I'll have him put on my strapon harness and fuck me with my favorite attachment. If he does a good job, he is usually rewarded with some prostate stimulation Chasity play is only a small part of our relationship. I enjoy the person he becomes when locked up. I also enjoy the increased tolerance it brings on his part when we 'play'. As mentioned in previous posts, I'm a lifestyle dominatrix who enjoys many different types of BDSM play. These include bondage, role play, anal play, male slut training, smothering, cock&ball torture, electro play, needle play, medical play, forced body worship, and watersports. My husband normally has a very low tolerance for many of these activities - some of which are on his list of 'hard limits.' I can tell you that after being locked in chastity for several days, his tolerance for most activities increases significantly and his 'hard limits' all but disappear. :spank: I attribute this to his increasing need for sexual release. When I have him at this point, I can pretty much have my way with him and push his sexual limits to new levels. This is what makes chastity play so much fun. In just a few short days, I can turn my husband into a completely different person - one that will go out of his way for me, and who will allow me to totally have my way with him sexually. This totally appeases my sadistic and kinky persona One thing I have noticed with most of the men I have placed in chastity is a temporary reduction in size and their ability to get hard. Before all you men start to panic, let me reiterate that both of these are TEMPORARY conditions. Your penis is like a sponge. A bunch of empty cells that, when flooded with blood, cause an erection and subsequent increase in size. Now, when you eliminate the possibility of erections (and hopefully you have a device that has little to no room to expand), those cells temporarily shrink, leading to a TEMPORARY loss in penile length, girth and the ability to become fully erect. Most men will lose about .5 - 1.0" in length and about 20% in girth. Welcome Mindfuck Part 2.. lol. I will usually release my husband about halfway through one of our extended play sessions. Not because I feel bad for him, but to allow me total access to his cock After releasing him and torturing his cock and balls for what seems like an eternity, I tell him he's finally allowed to fuck me and get off. I then lie down and offer my pussy or ass to him. It's at this point that he realizes he can't become fully erect and is unable to fuck me. At best, he is sporting a 'chubby' which tends to also be a slimmer and shorter version than normal version of his typical chubby. LOL. After watching him desperately stroking his cock trying to get hard, I tell him to put it away and save his energy. At this point, it usually comes down to him getting me off with his tongue, a strap on, or if I'm in the mood, I'll fuck him in the ass. When I'm in the mood for anal play, I usually will insert a series of butt plugs in his ass throughout the night to gradually stretch his ass. That way he's ready to go for me . Like most of the others who have replied, I have always found that after 1-2 days of being released, everything functions 100% normally and his cock returns to it's 'normal' length of 6.5". So no need to panic guys. Normal physiological response. Wow this post has made me horny and provided me with some new ideas for our next play session.
An interesting thread. I have not noticed any permanent shrinkage in long-term caged males. It certainly appears slightly wrinkled and small when first released but soon returns to normal. I personally feel that in order to change the male persona a term of 6 weeks caged is the minimum.
It is an interetsing discussion as I've also wondered if there are longer term effects. I was locked for 3 months leading up to Xmas through an online arrangement. When released, the first actual release was well... a let down! And I began to wonder if there had been any actual impact following the longer period locked. But within a couple of days all was back to full working order! I think there's a certain psychosomatic effect from being locked (and released). I think it's all more in the mind than being actually physical, but I think the reality of "mind over matter" can potentially lead to physical issues for some. I certainly wasn't ready to be relocked very quickly!
Wanting to be locked is new to me and I dont always want it. Same with wanting to have sex without touching myself or cumming. Have noticed a decline in my erections while masturbating over the past several months which is about the time I ramped up on trying my cage, anal play, porn focused on cuckolding and BBC worship by sissies. Just last week serviced three strangers in my hotel room all while remaining in a cage. Didn't want to jack off after and took until the next day. Then and since, I like to jack off thinking about it, but I'm mostly limp. It can't be physical right? Sound like a mental reaction to being in a sub role and in brief chastity? Gabby p.s. - sorry my cage looks sloppy. I was in a rush to get ready and it usually fits me.
Oh Mistress you have made me very curious Curtsy, may I ask what's happened to your subbie's "shrinkage", Curtsy.
No reason you should unlock him. If your both happy with that. I Just thought 24/7 was a great fantasy. However that is coming from a man who would be lucky to last 2 weeks