should I buy a chastity cage to lock up myself?

Your problems of frequent and uncontrolled masturbation is not unusual
Using a chastity cage for your problem will help you curb your habit
However, you have to any how ensure that the keys are not accessible to you
You can keep the keys with your friend who stays far away from you
I feel you should first try ordinary cages available on websites like ebay or so
Once you get used to stay locked and once decide to continue staying locked, then go for costlier cages
All the best!
Enjoy!

 

Hi kenny
For short periods of chastity you could post the keys of your chastity device to yourself. I guess for longer periods of this method you could miss spell your address or not put the right amount of postage on it. Just a thought, hope this helps. Chris

 

@kenny1999 yes you shud. keeping having spurtys makes you very lazy and Ladys don't like lazy folks.

 

Highly risky in India!
You might just never get your packet!!

 

Hi kenny,

If you're genuinely new to all this you shouldn't send your keys anywhere at all.

Once you've obtained a device it can take many attempts to find the right configurations between ring size and cage length and gap between the two, etc, etc.

Remember that what feels relatively comfortable at 4pm may be total agony at 4am, and there is no way to find out except by trial and error. Only when you're sure you can go 7 days and nights total lockdown without problems should you even consider being without any keys.

At first you can experiment with leaving the keys in your car when you get home... If you need to want to the device in the middle of the night, you'll have to get up, get dressed and go out to the car, etc. Having a deterrent like this can help you 'push through' those moments of deep torment as you learn to cope. But don't give up those keys until you really know how your body responds to each device you try.

The fantasy of secured chastity is one thing, the day by day reality is altogether different.

Good luck.

G

 

And I used Emlalock to store the combination for my Realtors lock. You can set how long and allow others to vote for more or less time added/subtracted and you always will have access to get the combination if you need it. Might make it very interesting for you.

 

are you me Kenny?

I am in the same situation (was just about to start a topic, but saw this)

I really want to get a chastity device, but I don't think I'd be able to keep myself locked up. So I still haven't bought one.
Idk, I didn't really add much to the topic...

 

I m a compulsive masturbator and even locked up in chastity I still manage to make myself orgasm

 

A little dose of reality is that you do need an emergency key close by for emergencies. I have had to use mine once or twice a year, once for emergency surgery where they wheeled me into the OR while still wearing my jeans. If you want to risk your well being for a sex game that most will quit in a few weeks anyway, go ahead. Safe and sane is the only way to go. I learned that when I was in my twenties waiting to have surgery do to unsafe BDSM play. You can get painful skin irritations that require you unlock for a few days to heal. If someone says you do not need an emergency key they do not have your best interest at heart. Why would strangers care about you or how many days you go without an orgasm? I would give you the max because why not?

Now for some real bad news. A real holy trainer cost close to $175 dollars If you see it for much less like $25, it is not the real thing and not using the real thing will lessen your chances of enjoying and sticking with chastity. The Holy Trainer Version 2, it not adjustable like the CB6000 which is the best starter cage. It too is pricey. No one said chastity play is cheap but there are many made in China clones of the popular devices out there that are priced so low you wonder how they can afford to produce a quality product for so little. They are good for testing the waters though but just know that if you intend to go 24/7, they will make it more difficult to do so.

You can easily masturbate when locked in a chastity cage so it is not a good way to stop masturbation. You can mastubate in several different ways. Chastity will only work if YOU want to quit masturbating, because no one else or any device is going to get you to stop for long. Also do not expect to get your device and start wearing it 24/7 from day one. It takes a good amount of time to get used to 24/7 wear. It took me 3 months to get to that point. When I tried to lock up from day one, all I got was a lot of pain on the skin of my scrotum. Once again, find real sources of chastity information. Reality seldom duplicates fantasy.

Self locking is a valid a form of chastity, as is just stopping masturbation without a device. It is just a whole different experience due to no power exchange, although you can make an argument that exchanging the power and control over your penis with other guys is a power exchange. However you still miss out on the exquisite torture of edging and teasing all week long. I gladly exchange my orgasms for an hour of edging that brings me to the brink over and over again. Plus the ruined orgasms which make me ejaculate without feeling any pleasure at all when my wife makes me believe she will bring me to a full orgasm, is feeling the power exchange.

What you do is up to you. Just try to avoid joining all the other guys who self lock without knowing what is really involved which minimize their chances of success. Once the initial excitement and arousal wears off, do you think you would want to continue with no one to share it with or to have the power over your penis that you are seeking. If you are OK with guys you do not know telling you when you can cum, it can work for you. My wife is bi so she will play sex games with either gender, but I stick to women only, even though I have had sex with men in my distant past. One more thing, do not expect to get your device, put it on and wear it 24/7 for longer than a day or two. It can take weeks and ever months to get your skin accustomed to the device and even longer to be able to sleep with it. If you want it to work you will have to wear it a few more hours each day. If not, you will end up in pain and waiting a week for your skin to heal before trying again. Many guys will never find being locked up 24/7 comfortable and/or pain free. It took me 3 months to wear my device 24/7. Just be aware of this, because chastity in real life is not like the fiction you read online.

Hope that I helped you in a small way because when I started BDSM I got some bad advice from guys who read too much porn. It did not go well at all. Same with chastity. I tried it like I read on many blogs with D/s, whipping, FLR and more. It was overload and I found out that simply locking up did not magically change me or stop me from masturbating. Only when I promised my wife that I would not masturbate, did it work for us. I remain locked up for the same reason I wear my wedding band. It is symbolic and also a speed bump to give me pause to remember my promise to my wife. However, I can masturbate at any time if I wanted to. I just do not want to.