Reason for chastity

I was destroying my relationship with my Wife with a genital modification obsession. I honestly thought she was going to ask for a divorce. I had a sudden Damascus moment and thought that if I offered her the key to a chastity device she would be in control of my penis and would not have the issue of my obsession any more. I am the luckiest man alive because she accepted.

It has more than fixed our relationship, it has reinvigorated it beyond any expectation. I have learnt that I am much happier as a sub to my wonderful Mistress Keyholder Wife. I spoke to her today about how I feel that I never want to go back, that I can honestly see myself wearing one of these devices for the rest of my life.

My Wife is still learning what it means to her. We had a fabulous evening where we talked about what her 'job' in this is, as she wasn't really sure. I am just about to write my journal about the discussion.

I have also learned that my Wife is far more devious and kinky than I ever expected!

 

I started chasity because I was mastrbating too much. I was looking at too much porn and it was effecting my marriage. My wife loves attention and she works at night and me in the day time so when id want sex she would either (a) be too tired from work or be (b) sleeping inorder to go in for the night.....wearing a chasity device put things in a better perspective for me since while im locked up, she is at work at the hospital with the key.so mastrbating stopped, when it did I could tell when she got home I would be more willing to give her a back rub or body message. Which she ate up the attention in return she has been more interested in sex. I think she loves KNOWING that im not at home masterbating or worse starting an affair with someone else.

 

My first girlfriend just loved to not let me cum. She was just 15 years old and we both never heard about chastity before. She just loved to be sadistic The longest she made me go without orgasm was 10 days. She just stopped before I was cumming and said, I'm not allowed to finish it myself at home. I hated it at that time. But it made her giggle to see me frustrated and desperate to cum. I made her cum every day. Good old days haha

Now, my new girlfriend just hates sperm and loves permanent denial. Thats her reason for chastity.

 

@strap0nme .. good question I first saw chastity on a website they had this video of a man restrained and being told he would have to wait weeks for his release the idea really excited me and then I met my girlfriend who lived 70 miles away. We would Skype when we didn't see each other and she used to try and get me to cum but then one day I suggested chastity and how frustrated It would make me so I ordered a cb6000 and we tried it. The first big test was a weekend I was to see her. I locked on Wednesday night and posted her the keys . I went up on Friday pm with very aching balls and hoped for immediate release but was told we were going to meet her parents . It was a long dinner in many ways and when we get home I asked for release but she just teased me relentlessly and left me locked all night it was Saturday morning before release. ..

And thus was born slave and Mistress Deborah
Hugs
Lucy x

 

Ive always been submissive but i jerk off daily, its not an addiction but im very sexual and love edging and building up to a huge load every night.....chastity takes that away from me...and not knowing when ill get to do it just really makes me succumb to the submissive side and reminds me of whatand who i really am

 

You say that you "jerk off" every night. That tells me that you are in fact addicted to jerking off but have not come to the realization of that yet. A nice long lockup with the key not available to you should help to take care of your addiction to masturbating.

 

my lock is in the mail on its way to me presumably without the keys. Mistress says that once I click it shut I will be in for at least 4 weeks

 

That will be a good start.

 

We started as a way to energize our marriage. I liked the looks of a device so we ordered one. Played around with several styles until we got a custom Queens Keep. Now it is getting progressively longer times in between My Darling's ejaculation. We progressively increase his time on a week basis. First 1 week then 2 weeks etc. It has increased my interest in sex again, and our communication with each other.

 

It started out to deal with my insecurity issues. I'm alot older than my BF and I have a few curves on me. I'm an Assistant Manager at a big hotel, so it means I have to work some nights and weekends. BF hardly ever has to do that, so he can go out to bars while I'm at work. He never had any trouble attracting women, so I was insecure about myself and worried what might happen after he had a few drinks.

I never liked him playing with himself or looking at porn, either, so I use the CB-6000 kit I got from Kept for Her, lingerie and also the hairbrush, paddle and tawse to control him looking at porn and playing with himself. I assume he's played with himself if I see he's looked at porn.

 

it's a long story!
More than 20 years ago, I was out of town on business and wandered into a adult book store. i spotted a leather and steel toy that was basically a cage and a leather strap that locked around the balls.It looked interesting and fun. I did not even know it was a chastity device.
The wife and I played with it for awhile and I kind of fell in love with the way it felt on me.
Then I discovered the internet! I somehow found the the cb-2000 and found a used one that I could afford. tried that, but the wife did not care for it. Again i loved the way it felt on.
I had hoped for a revival of our sex life, but that didn't work out. Two things happened in my wife's life that killed her libido, menopause and diabetes. Personally I call menopause "men no more"!
I got a Neosteel sport belt that doesn't fit all that well, but I loved wearing it.
I finally got a cb-6000s and this is where I am at now. I absolutely LOVE wearing it. I feel as though I was born to wear it!
If I had the money, I would get a Neosteel Arch with the seal locks, or additionally a Lori's # 5.

 

I asked my mistress to be her chastity boy almost a year ago. The reason I asked was for a few reasons. (1) I was looking at a lot of porn and really getting disgusted with myself for being so indulgent in it. Ironically I stumbled across cuckold porn which in turn lead me to chastity sites. (2) I was masturbating way to much and this was effecting the amount of affection I was paying to my wife, I was not taking care of her needs and it seemed like we were losing out connection. I needed to stop both of the two things listed above. The connection my wife and I have is rare, I can count on one hand the number of times we've actually had a real argument about a real problem in the last 11 years. I'd be stupid to jeaprodize something as special as we have for self indulgence. I'm a better person in chastity then I am out and I like being that better person for my mistress. (3) it's bdsm, it's kinky and was just a fun change in general. This really reignited our sex lives and brought us closer together. Neither of us want to go back to how it was before.

 

My wife always suspected that I have affair/s (which was not the case)
Her suspicion went so strong that we were about to breakup
Fortunately I found the world of chastity
When she read all the info, specially the benefits, she jumped on it
That is how in April 2011 I was locked for the first time, and for ever
Then gradually we enjoyed the spicy side of chastity
Chastity has saved our marriage & family

 

my wife is not a dom in fact she is very submissive to me for many years, I did not take advantage of it but I did lead the relationship for many years . When I first asked her to lock me in chastity she was not for it she is very conservative . But once we got started she pretty quickly learned that holding the key to my cock gave her a certain amount of power. Even after the first two week I was more attentive to her needs both in and out of the bedroom and she loved that. We are only 6 months into our journey so we are still learning, I help more and more around the house which she loves and she is getting more aggressive/stronger. She recently started spanking me when I am "bad" nothing to heavy yet but its a start and a sign of how far she has come . we are both enjoying the benefit of chastity because we are close like we use to be, yes its frustrating being locked up but I like the tease and denial

 

Like @Sunny, my Mistress thought that every time I went out to "help" a friend I was having sex and planning to leave Her. She was raised very submissive, and i was an Alpha type with sub tendencies. I had told Her before we were married that I was Bi, and kinky, so that was not a shock during the marriage, but things were getting pretty close to the end when i ran across Chastity and ordered a Birdlocked Neo and Maxi. After wearing them for a few days to make sure I could I told and showed Her, and explained that i did it to prove to Her that i wasn't doing anything with anyone else.

It took a little time for Her to accept it, She thought it was weird, but when i offered to let Her take control of the relationship She accepted, adn things have been slowly developing since.

I am no longer kept locked, couldn't find the right fit with the Birdlocked or with a used Jailbird, so i am on the honor system, and She runs the show.

 

My wife has been feminizing me, little by little, for several years. We finally got to the point where I wear lingerie every workday while she is at work. In this situation, I didn't have the willpower to not wank during the day, so She got the CB6000s for me just to control my wanking during the day. So, each morning, as I ge out of the shower, I slip on the cage and then She snaps the lock in place and gives it a tug to remind me of Her control over me! If I complete my daily chore list by the time She gets home, then I am released. The chastity device works very well for its intended purposes.

 

Not really sure why other than curiosity but this past weekend I saw a device at the chain of adult stores I frequent and wanted to give one a try on. 48 hours later and I don't want to take it off! I feel like it is something that has been missing from my life that I just didn't know about. I have not
told my fiancé about it, she has s me insecurity issues stemming from past relationships and I'm curious to see what her reaction is going to be. I thought no I am going to wait until I hand her the keys before I tell her about it. I did some searching about a few questions I had and found your u guys and decided to join, I figured if anyone knows why I'm into this you guys will

 

I masturbate too much and I'm sure chastity will help me channel my energy into other, more important, things in life.

 

About six months ago I realized I had a giant todo list. As every married man knows... that list never seems to get any smaller. But, the fact of the matter was nothing on that list was getting done. One day after a "masturbation vacation" about 3 hours. I realized damn, I could have been doing something productive but here I am pleasuring myself.

I started reading about way to stop or curb my masturbation. I ran across a few websites and forums related to chastity. This began my journey. I ordered a very cheap CB6000S. To cheap I might add. I loved it! The frustration and turning over the keys, not knowing when i was getting released.

The "honey do list" is slightly shorter. I am slowly learning about myself. My wife/KH is not the dominant type, so mostly my lock ups are self inflicted. She likes the look and she has told me that she likes that I can't masturbate. She is coming around to the idea of being "in control" though be it slowly. I'm not going to push her. just let her take things at her own pace. Though i do request that she hide the keys from me as much as possible to prevent falling off the wagon.

 

It's really very ironic because I'm not submissive at all in everyday life; if anything, I'm naturally an arrogant, pushy, chauvinistic, and selfish man who for years spent most of his adult life sexually degrading and disrespecting women. However, I was always drawn to sexual submissiveness, such as bondage, because I liked the idea of just "letting go" of my cares and having someone else in charge for a while, I found it very liberating. I also always liked the ironic twist of being dominated by the very same female species that I had very little respect for.

Bondage sites led to women tickle torturing tied up and helpless men, which led to cock teasing and orgasm denial, which led to make chastity devices. I'll never forget how shocked I was to discover that there were women out there that actually enjoyed denying men the ability to masturbate. I read as much about the subject as I possibly could and discovered just how prevalent the practice was amongst couples and how it was growing in popularity. I learned all about the benefits and reasoning behind it all and it just clicked with me. It all made so much logical sense to me.

I began to realize that we men are actually not as strong as I once thought and that women are not as weak as I thought. I wondered why so many women had yet to discover this secret and exploited it to their benefit. Fast forward to today and I must say, chastity and femdom have completely changed my life and my outlook on women. I used to feel so guilty about how I thought of and treated women, but until now, I didn't know how to overcome it.

Without the ability to diminish my sexual desire for women by way of masturbation, I'm forced to merely admire their many physical and non-physical attributes in ways I never imagined a chauvinist like me could. I now treat my wife the way she deserves to be treated and have so much unbelievable respect for women, irregardless of what they're wearing, doing, or saying.

I hope to continue on this journey and become the man that women in society deserve. I am so encouraged by the fact that male chastity is growing in popularity, not merely as play, but as a serious lifestyle, and that women are rising in power over the household and society in general. I'm reassured of this everyday when I continously read new reviews of a device written by a woman.

I might feel frustrated at no longer being allowed orgasms like I used to or having to swallow my pride and do as I'm told by a woman, but the benefits in the respect I've gained for women and the better man that I've become as a result are so incredibly worth it. I hope the day comes where locking their man in a chastity device becomes as pervasive and routine for women as putting on makeup in the morning.

 

Chastity came to the rescue when my wife lost her steady girlfriend. My wife is more into sex with women but will only be romantic with men. She never dated a woman. All of her playmates were friends or acquaintances. So long story short, she was not eager to have sex with me because she does not enjoy intercourse and only cums using her vibrator. She really has no need for my penis at all except that she loves edging me and after 3 years of this, denying me up to 6 months. Chastity has taken my frustration and irritation about infrequent sex and turned my sexless days into a sex game, but a game that we both agree to and work towards the same goal. I know I could have masturbated in any of my 5 cages simply by holding a vibrator against it or inserting something into one of its openings to rub against my penis until I came. So we both work to not have me orgasm until my wife wants me too.

My wife fell in love with edging me and I enjoy the anticipation of the orgasm more than the 10 fleeting seconds of the orgasm itself. Our sex life is good again and suits my sexually masochistic and submissive needs and frees my wife from having to deal with my orgasms or feeling guilty for denying the man she loves (she only can love a man, never a woman) any type of penetration by penis or finger as well as oral sex. I do not know how many of you have a KH who loves you but has no need for your penis at all. Makes it a lot more interesting for me. So chastity was a perfect choice for us.

 

I think you will find that is a lot more wife's out there that have no use for a mans penis even outside of the mansion.