poor performance punished?

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    There is a ton of material out there regarding small penis humiliation and the like - being punished for having a small useless dick etc. This turns me on, but I also constantly fantasize about a related but slightly different scenario - being graded, critiqued and punished on my sexual performance as a whole, not just my size. I think this kink started around 5 years ago with a girlfriend I had at the time. She was completely vanilla, and could only come through intercourse. I would frequently come way before she was even close, ensuring that she would not orgasm (she would have nothing to do with a dildo or vibrator). She got increasingly angry when this happened, and accused me of being selfish. After a while she would actually shout at me and hit me when this happened.

    My current girlfriend and I play around with this a bit. In addition to my small penis, I have really terrible stamina. Fairly early on in our relationship I once came just as I was entering her - she could feel my little dick throb and knew instantly what happened. She gave me a surprised, somewhat angry look and said "Are you serious?" Ever since then she doesn't expect too much from me sexually, and the vast majority of our "sex" involves me looking on as she uses her Hitachi on herself. The worst episode with her was when I had to stop her when she was rolling a condom on my dick. I waited a few seconds then tried to finish the job myself, but I still came. Again, I got the surprised and angry look from her.

    Sometimes she'll let me try to get her off, either with a handjob or oral. When I'm using my hand, she always has to guide my fingers to her clit, and I'm rarely able to get her off before she pushes my hand out of the way to make room for the dreaded Hitachi. Oral is even worse though - several times in the past she's picked up the remote and started flipping channels while I was hard at work, and last night after lying there silent and unmoving for a good 3 or 4 minutes she suddenly asked me "Did you take the trash out tonight?" It was so clear that her mind was on everything but my frantically straining tongue on her clit. She usually lets me go for a few minutes out of kindness before I get the tap on shoulder, meaning my time is up.

    My fantasy is for my girlfriend to take this a step farther. She tells me that our relationship is unfair - clearly I'm not providing her with the sexual stimulation she needs, and it's as much from my poor technique and stamina then my undersized penis. She suggests that she could and should severely punish me for selfishly depriving her in the bedroom. Examples of fair punishments might be paddling, grounding, reduction of allowance (she controls my finances and gives me a weekly allowance), writing lines, corner time, extra chores, etc. Maybe she has me go out and get a school gradebook so she can break things down into categories - foreplay, stamina, size, number of orgasms for her, etc.

    Phew! Sorry for the long-winded post. Have any of you experienced or thought about anything similar?
     
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    a must she feels satisfied

    :anim_37:After reading your post I feel sad for you and her, a satisfying sex life for both parties is a must to keep the relationship together. If she cant get any good feeling from you, she will move on, either physically or emotionally. You need to talk to each other and be very patient in the bedroom. Maybe giving her a massage would be a good start to warming her up first. With my Girlfriend I also cum too quick (I can fuck for hours if I dont love the girl, but when I do its all over) so we make a game out of it, she loves doggie, when I get close I pull out and lick until I calm down. I also eat my cum so If I do cum I pull out, cum, eat and keep fucking.

    I love sph and everything but it is a must she feels satisfied in the bedroom.
     
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    this is gonna seem out of place here, but have you tried viagra or cialis. they both make you last longer and get it up quicker if you do cum.
     
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    Smallguy - I appreciate your concern. Luckily, my girlfriend is completely fine with my lack of skills and natural gifts - she really does prefer her vibrator to almost anything, even great sex with a real cock. In fact we have talked about it and it and she really appreciates the fact that I'm open to her masturbating way more often than we have sex. With other guys she always had to worry about hurting their feelings. With me it's humiliating of course, but then a part of me really likes that - ok a pretty big part of me. The part of me that wants her to keep me locked for long periods of time while she gets all the great sex she can, from any source she chooses. So don't worry too much about us - our relationship is actually incredibly stable.

    slavejohn - I would really like to try those. I've considered telling my doctor but it's pretty embarrassing for a 34 year old to bring up these issues. I have no idea if the stuff you get spammed with is the real deal either. Anyone have any experience with buying viagra over the internet?
     
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    Dear spiraled1,

    After reading some of your posts, I'm not sure what you really want. You have a better chance of getting what you wish for if you ask for it. Why don't you bite the bullet and ask your gf to be your keyholder. Explain the benefits (to her) of having you in a chastity device. You will be able to serve her sexual needs and she need not worry about yours. I have a 6000S and have been in it for almost 6 months. My wife does not reach orgasm by penetration thus, she doesn't really need my cock. She does, however, get incredibly turned on by knowing that I am locked and cannot get off. Her best orgasms occur while she cleans my chastity in the dishwasher, keeps me in bondage and brings me to the brink, over and over again, but never lets me cum. After she replaces my cb, I am frustrated beyond belief. I always wanted to experience this and now that I know what it's like, it is everything I thought it would be. Unfortunately, in the past I could masturbate after thinking about this scenario. Not any longer.
    Once again, ask for what you want!

    sal
     
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    spiraled1, just tell your doctor what i did...i have no problem getting an erection, just sustaining one. the less said the better and he or She honestly doesn't care.

    i would advise against buying it over the internet...counterfeits are common and scary. besides, let your health insurance pay for at least part of the cost.
     
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    Sal - actually, my girlfriend has kept me locked up most of the time for the past two years or so. I agree of course that communication is key. I think that where we are as a couple now is because we communicate together quite well. I have several posts concerning our flirting with cuckolding - perhaps that was the confusion? But I did enjoy reading about your teasing from your keyholder - very hot!

    Thanks chastityslavejohn - I might try this approach at my next doctors appointment. I've always wanted to try viagra - might solve some of my girlfriend's problems :)
     
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    Hi Spiraled,

    It sounds like you're on a good thing! I haven't heard of this before.. and you could be the only guy out there who's really into this sort of humiliation. I would have thought you'd have the desire to improve your oral skills to try and compensate for lacking other skills, but having no skills and being mocked about that is pretty extreme in my opinion (not that you're not welcome to it if its your thing!).

    If you're both enjoying it, I reckon it sounds like a great idea to take it a step further. The grade book sounds like an awesome idea! She could get really technical about it too.. like keeping a log of things like "time to orgasm". This log could then be graphed so you can see how your time to orgasm is dropping over time as she develops your hair trigger :D

    I'm guessing ultimately she should be aiming to have you accidentally come while in chastity, with the only stimulation being the sight of her getting her vibe out of the draw!

    Sounds to me like an already fun time is about to get a whole lot better. Don't take my words too seriously, they're just ideas.
     
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