Hello all. I am new to the site and am looking for some help/advice if you would be so kind to help. I have recently become interested in chastity and am really excited about getting started. The advice I require is how to get my girlfriend onboard. I am yet to talk to her about it, I know this would be one of the first things to do but I fear that she may take it the wrong way. I am not afraid to talk to her about these things since it was fairly easy for me to ask that she peg me which she was excited about but I am afraid that asking her to chastise me will lead her to think I don't want to have sex with her. I have a pretty hardcore porn addiction and masturbate nearly daily these are just some of the reasons I want her to be in control. Can you please offer some advice on how i should go about bringing it up or steps I should take in advance? Thanks for your help The Changed
Perhaps starting with a little chastity play using cock straps or rings so she can see the effect and share a little pleasure then you can move onto devices as she gets confident with applying straps etc. I am assuming you share a light BDSM interest so buy her some wrist/ankle cuffs, corsetry etc. So you can make moves on her. Keep it all light and simple and she will get used to the scenarios. From straps and rings applied by your Mistress the move to devices will flow into your chastity between periods of sexual activity with her. You will need to talk about devices at some point and should have a few pictures or vids to show her what you have in mind. It is important to underline that you are doing this because you adore her and wish to concentrate on pleasing her to the best of your ability. Use the device in erotic play between you so she is used to having it as a barrier to her and you. It might be feasible to say you'll wear it when she is on her period when she may feel less permissive of your attentions... (I had a g/f who was became deeply fascinated by my penis when wearing of an Arab-strap, I introduced it with to her no notice or explanation and she was 'in tune' from the start, so clearly the idea clicked on a little light in her brain. Over time she learned to fit it to me when we met, it became second nature that when we initially undressed she would strap me up, and then handle my penis. We had agreed before we met that we would never ever have intercourse together. We dated on and off for six years and the never f*ck rule was never broken. So sometimes the direct no nonsense route is the best) But in the end only you know your lady and only you can, tell what the effect will be, or influence her along the path you wish to take. I wish you luck.