hello all. I'm a 42yo married male (Wife is my KH). We just started this journey 3 weeks ago. So far I've been in a cage for 48 hours and chaffing caused me to scab up. Healed and went back in for 48 hours more and same thing. I've used gold bond intensive care, a&d ointment, Vaseline. I have two cages both from China off amazon. I am determined for long wear. My wife has really taken to this well. We are going at our own pace but really enjoy it so far. One problem I have is my base ring is 50mm and maybe a bit big. I tried a 45 and 40 and both to small (I'm a low hanger with big balls and a grower) I'm thinking once I get this chaffing issue under control and can wear it for longer term I will get a custom. But anyway when I am lounging around the house in just shorts and no underwear my balls are just fine while in it. When I get dressed for work and sit at my desk or drive to work my balls are so tight and cold and blue. Any reason for that?