New but been a lurker just wanted to say hello to all!

Hi everyone! Just want to introduce myself. My wife and I are relatively new to this lifestyle. I introduced her about 4 years ago. She was a little hesitant at first but has seen the changes in me. In the past four years we both have made mistakes in this lifestyle and what it truly is about. I realized that I want a Female led Relationship. I had to let go of any fantasy I thought this would be like. Yes my Wife has become my Mistress in most ways but it took a lot of communication and balance. My wife was pretty vanilla when I first met her. But she has seen how much happier we are living this way. She has me locked in a cb6000s for now. We do have a Mature Metal Jailbird on the way. We are even considering a PA piercing. I suggested it to make the device escape proof. She is coming around to it. I told her that the frustration might become to much to deal with. She said she understands but I have to learn to deal with it. She would rather punish me with her cane. Yes she loves her cane. So we will see what happens. She has seen that I am very controllable under the right conditions. She knows my kinks and uses them now to dominant me in the bedroom and out. It has become so much easier for the both of us living like this. Before all this we just were not that happy. We got along but it wasn't happiness. Sex was a huge problem. I have a high sex drive. I wanted sex all the time or otherwise I would masturbate every day. I knew this was creating problems but I couldn't control myself. It was an addiction. Living this lifestyle corrects my bad habits . I realized I need to just submit to my wife. I need to focus on your happiness and only hers. I need to be controlled and as it turns out I like it. I am very lucky because my wife sees this and realizes what I need to make her happy. I know this isn't normal vanilla life but it is working for us. Life is a give and take and we both love each other very much so why not do whatever makes us happy!
Anyway I rambled enough. I am thankful for this website and all it has offered. It has help my wife and I a lot. By the way I have to stop calling her my wife. I need to get use to calling her Mistress or Ma'am.

 

Thank you xcitedsisssy. I stole the word lurker from other posts, jemima. I never wanted to put my two cents in until my Mistress and I were serious about living this lifestyle. In the past 4 years we have learned a lot enough to know we both want this. So we are taking this serious now. My wife has made it plenty clear that denying me is the best for us. But I have a question. Why is it being locked and not allowed to cum makes me a better husband?

 

Mistress B it has been working for us. My wife and I have very different sex drives. I of course had some kinks where as my wife was pretty vanilla. But we both enjoy making each other happy. Now that we have had 4 years off and on playing with this. She has seen the difference and is confident to progress further. I know it's only been 13 days I'm starting to go crazy. And she wants to go months to break me.