New and wondering about the right approach

As I said, I think it is quite early for that, she doesn't do her own research, she has only read a book and listened to a podcast that I had shared with her some time ago, so I don't think it is something that she will bring up and I think that she will not see any benefit for her in that, she already controls my orgasms. We will see about the future, right now I am focused on obeying her and serving her in order to make her feel more comfortable and confident in a dominant position, I try to not suggest anything that would seem as something for my enjoyment with extra work for her, such as the maintenance of a chastity device.

 

Hello again,

We took a break for some time since we were in different places and after I returned nothing was really going on so I decided to make a quiz for her to decide what she wants, I had all sorts of options there. She had said that she also wants an FLR because she feels that this makes me more attentive to her needs. During the quiz she basically said that she doesn't want to be in an FLR because it feels too much scripted and with need to micromanage for her, but at the quiz she seemed open to try things in the bedroom. She is already quite dominant there, sex happens on her terms since always basically but she seemed open in being even more strict at times and even incorporating things that would seem extreme for our general state such as making me wear a buttplug or peg me if that was something that I would enjoy. That was quite a surprise for me, she ruled out chastity, I guess because of the micromanaging reasons but that was an interesting new potential, so basically we agreed to keep our dynamic in the bedroom. After a few days, I wrote down my thoughts and I said that I understand that she doesn't want to be strict and controlling but for me serving her and knowing that we both know why this is happening, acknowledging the dynamic has become to be important, especially because of the bossy attitude that she usually has. I think that she feels superior to me and she wants to be treated as one, but for some reason she doesn't want this label above us, she sees it as an act or romance/girly thing/whatever. Anyway, in the end we agreed to try again and find a formula with the least level of micromanagement, she doesn't want any rules or rituals outside of the sexual territory, I assured her that I will be as obedient to her as I can be and she will try to occasionally show her dominance throughout our everyday lives. We sealed our new agreement with me going down on her, without any reciprocation of course.
Any thoughts or advice on how to proceed and make her enjoy it again?

Thanks!

 

As we were sleeping, Goddess woke me up in the middle of the night, asked if I want to have sex, I said "of course", she then started stroking my cock and kept stroking and teasing my cock until I gave her 2 orgasms in a row with my hands and then she stopped, told me that her planning changed and that I don't deserve an orgasm. She said "You're welcome" and told me to kiss her. I said "Thank you, Goddess" and we just went to sleep, me feeling my cock rock hard and on fire from all the stroking. I've been having a painful case of blue balls all day and thinking about it makes me hard, which makes my blue balls worse, it is a vicious cycle. I feel sexually frustrated but I love it at the same time!

 

After many ups and downs and trying out different things, I had started to give up hope and I asked her to listen to the Obedient Love podcast that I shared in another thread, promising that for a long time I won't bring the whole issue up again if she doesn't find any appeal in that. After she listened to it while I was painting her toenails, she asked me to write down the main points of it, which I did, I also added some of my thoughts and I suggested to try again for a month. When, after reading it, I asked her if she agrees and she said "Yes, we can try" I couldn't believe my ears, I felt so excited. Now we've been on an official 24/7 FLR for 11 days, where she accepts my submission and I obey her every order. Needless to say that I am focused on her pleasure, while see has only denied me and ruined my orgasm so far. I feel such inner peace, finally and it seems to be going so well, it is like a new honeymoon phase. I feel her dominance and confidence growing by the day but at the same time we also feel more loved and happy than ever, I feel so grateful for being able to be accepted and appreciated about who I really am!

 

Thank you for you comment. In our current FLR whatever she wants happens, as simple as that. I had to fail numerous times in order to understand that I should just give her full control and follow her wish but I learned from that and now I can already see that every day she is becoming more assertive in her wants and needs.