Need some encouragement to lock myself up. 23M

Hello everyone,

I've been considering to start again to my chastity lockup journey for a while now, and I could really use some encouragement and advice from those who have experience in this lifestyle.

I'm 20 years old straight male and have been trying with chastity devices for last three years, I had the HT V3 Maxi, Small, Nub, and a metal nub cage. Despite my efforts, I've been struggling with intense feelings of horniness during my recent lockups. It's hard to resist the temptation of masturbation / playing with my cage. I seem to play with my cage and cum when I get horny. Now, I dont want that but idk how to change my mindset.

How should I see chastity play for this not to happen? I would like to consider things from self control perspective. I don't have a keyholder but I seem to keep keys safe enough, just gotta not play with my cage.

I'm curious to know if others in the community have faced similar challenges and how you've managed to cope with them. What strategies, mental exercises, or routines have helped you redirect your energy and maintain your chastity commitment? What are your aims / motives for this kink?

How should my mindset be to succeed at least a month locked?

Additionally, does this controlling kink make men less of a man? It always seemd like an arousing idea to be locked for me. Having less control over erections if fun.

Also, how can I provide mental comfort to myself to stop thinking this like punishment and something hard when I lock up and get horny?

I think hearing from the members of this community will help me with the support and motivation I need to take this step. Please encourage me! Your stories and guidance would mean a lot to me. Female perspective will be appreciated too, so I can see what they think.

Thank you in advance.

 

Thanks! I've past that stage I think. The longest I been locked whilst building up was 3 weeks. I was so close to a month and feeling not good enough to get to a month killed all vibes and I gave up. I tend to look porn more when I'm locked, I think I should manage to keep that low as well.