need help, all mistresses

Hello 2inch. Your Wife is welcome to read my posts and ask me anything. I would be very happy to exchange ideas with Her. I will tell her of the wonderful joy I have found in a husband who is completely obedient to me. Could you really handle that, 2inch? I think you could and I hope She chooses to make you the instrument of Her pleasure.

That said, 2inch, this should be completely Her decision. I would never pressure a Woman to do anything She doesn't want to do.

 

I would suggest you direct Her to Fetlife, if She has any interest in kink, the place is full of it. lol. Do not however push Her too hard, perhaps a present of a book, Fifty Shades of Grey is selling like hot cakes, at the moment.

 

KH by itself is a very good start.

But yes, there's a lot on Fetlife too.

I am a subscriber there as well.

 

Lol, my wife grabbed one when she heard it was banned at the library.

 

Hmmm...That book actually bugs me a bit, am i being a spil sport here?

Fifty shades of grey is about a Woman submitting to a (gimme a break) 28 year old self made billionaire.
It is a good book but would'nt it be counter productive if it made her feel submissive like the heroine and got her all hot and bothered to be with a Christian Grey type?
The thing that is very "common" in these books is here is a WOMAN giving up control to a MAN, this is exactly how the general world actually is! How kinky is that really? The BDSM part is just an exaggeration of that. This is actually way more socially acceptable than the reverse where man gives up all control to a woman, and "they" can debate all they want on the "mommy porn" aspect of it all. If this were a Femme Domme book it would be selling in the hundreds, not the millions and certainly not to the vanilla crowd that buys it now. Our lifestyle needs Women educated and nurtured into it t first. It is counter to everything our North American culture teaches.

50 shades is a great intro to the kink world in some ways but if you suggest it, make sure She understands that She is free to flip the rolls and think of herself in the "Christian Grey" roll.

Fetlife is a good option. There are so many great Domme groups there. But interacting with the Women on this site if She is willing may be the best advice. The women are amazing here and can form a good realistic picture of life in the FLR style.

OK, then i will be under a table until the dust i stirred up clears...

 

subklik. You are correct to point out that the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy are about the Female submissive, but I have found that many dommes including Myself, were first introduced to our lifstyle this way.
It can only be a good thing if one has experience of both sides of the fence.

 

Mis t r e s S B. iS correct.
my own wife was sub to me at firST.
AND HAs been sub to all but two lovers.

She has become more Domme than ever as a
rEsult. She now subs 4 no one.

Ok, now I am goin 2 smash this phone!

 

2inch, that is so sweet that you are nervous about giving up control. But I can tell you that you will feel so much better when you do. you know Her pleasure should always come first. your every waking moment should be dedicated to making Her happy. And you know that would make you happy too.

 

Not banned at my library! But there's a waiting list as long as your arm.....................can't think why......LOL!!!

 

This comment may be too late to be of use but.... figured I'd toss my thoughts out there.

I have been reading the Shades of Grey trilogy to see what all the fuss is about. I am not proud of it, by any means. I started reading it when I found "someone" had purchased it and I took it away with a "Why the hell are you buying this crap" (for reasons I need not go into). Well.... the mainstream seem to think this is a kinky "BDSM" book, but I really don't think that's what women are falling for. I agree with Subklik ... the set up is preposterous. Female readers aren't falling for a Dom, they're falling for a wealthy-beyond-belief, ultra-gorgeous, fantasy man who takes care of everything, provides fabulous gifts, cars, wardrobe. She never became his sub "officially" and by book 2, he's already "given up" his Dominant side and D/s, in favor of a regular relationship (with a few kinky little regressions ). Perhaps having a real life involvement in my past makes it seem less impressive and the book isn't very well written and slightly annoying. I don't think it would teach anyone anything about becoming a dominant. It may make a woman want to get tied up and spanked by Mr. Perfect....but... there's not much about his Dom motivation other than a terrible childhood. Reading a book like this won't help her, in my opinon.

More important than my book review.... a suggestion. Why not search out some erotic stories online that truly interest you, with a female dominant lead and chastity theme. You could set up a nice, comfortable setting for Miss C, a few candles... a little massage... and then when she's nice an relaxed, read her a story that represents an ideal reality for you both. Make it a new ritual (or rather....see if she thinks it would be a good ritual after your first surprise). If she likes the scenarios, it may help her get some ideas and motivation. If she just doesn't have it in her, well.... can't build your own Domme, per se.

 

I'm so happy for you, 2inch!