Legal contract

Great idea until she divorces you or the excitement of a FLR wears off. You cannot legalize a contract to be submissive to someone. A Power of Attorney does not grant anyone to do anything against your interest. I hold over 3,000 POA's for m clients and if I misuse them, I will be sued out of business. Keep in mind that in our fantasies we get aroused by all sorts of things that are not realistic because we are only feeling the arousal and not the real effects. I tried being a slave several times and once the initial excitement wears off, you wake up some morning no longer sexual aroused by it and then do not feel like working like a plow horse while your Mistress is sitting around watching TV and eating Bon-bons. What you read online is not real life. I have been into BDSM for 47 years and belonged to a once big NYC BDSM club. We visited people we met there and even the ones that looked very extreme, lived married life like most other people. There is a fine line between a sexual fetish and a psychological problem. Someone who wants to be treated like a slave 24/7 would have a very difficult time proving that they were of sound mind and body when signing any legal contract.

You already have a FLM contract. It is called a Marriage License. I have one too. Good luck. Based on my experience, you have a much better chance of realizing your fantasies if you approach them realistically and not try to re-create what you read online or have outlines in your mind. As someone into S&M for a few decades, I have fantasized about having all sorts of things done to me. From that I learned a valuable lesson. In my fantasy I never felt the pain that I felt in reality so I had to be more realistic in my sexual goals. Good luck.

 

A Legal Contract ? A relationship is built on Love and Trust not on paper. A contract isn't worth the paper it's printed on if the two people aren't committed to making the relationship no matter how kinky or straight it is work. No piece of paper will make it work. Almost 32 years ago I told my wife I would love her forever the signing of a piece of paper means nothing without Love

 

But if you have a notary document and the KH makes a change in how she's controlling the relationship say for example. Makes her sub consume his cum. Which wasn't in the agreement or document. The sub has a way out " that's not part of our contract" . To totally submit to your KH you have no control over changes she may make. The question is who's in control or are you topping from the bottom. We've tried the written agreement and have found that for me to just totally submit to what ever she wants has made our relationship stronger and more exciting. It takes a lot of time to come to the perfect balance

 

I'm from the old school were you make a deal on a hand shake. Or in this case a squeeze of the testicals. Ouch yes Ma'am

 

As a man Yes

 

A power of attorney's OK, though it can of course always be revoked, but I don't think the clause you mention would be enforceable as such.

No way can a contract for anything involving chastity or servitude be legally enforceable in any jurisdiction that I know. But there can of course be a vanilla structure where she has control/ownership of all the assets and he has everything to lose if they split. And if (separately) there can be an other expression of a commitment from him to her in writing (needn't be expressed as a contract & IMO it's best it dosn't) that he desires and agrees an FLR and chastity or other germane elements then while it's not enforceable as such it can still be evidence of consent (so long as it's not to anything actually illegal). So he can't very well complain and will have quite a problem getting anywhere if he tries.. (Think of it a bit like rape in reverse. A man forces sex on a woman against it's a criminal offence. But if's she's consented there's no problem. And proving it was non-consensual can be very difficult.) This way she can have him by the balls every which way if it's done properly.Too much to lose vanilla if he tries to wriggle out and meanwhile she's got so many handles it's about as enforceable as it can be.

 

One good example of relationship of this nature is in this blog.
https://mdsh143.com/
She is also a Member here.
https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?members/mdsh.39212/

 

I don't think a FLR or chastity contract in itself can be legally binding, not in a way that would hamper either party. But that's not what a contract is for. It flushes out the agreement between two parties. If you are unsure what steps are ok to take, the contract is there to help negotiate and clear up issues. You can constantly add and subtract from these kinds of contracts to get a better sense of what is expected, needed and agreed upon. Nothing is "forced" in a contract, but enforcing the contract itself, is merely reminding the other what they agreed to in it. If it's obvious what they agreed to isn't happening, then throw out the contract, feel free to start it anew..

For example, if a submissive sissy wants you to dominate them, but they are more into the fantasy than the reality, their contract might offer up unrealistic designs on what they expect from the situation, so as the relationship grows, the contract should be renewed with more realistic goals. That said, with it in black and white, these contracts give the submissive cause to accept more than they would without them. It's a reminder of the goals they wish to achieve.

 

actions speak louder than words.
in this case, show and act it, nothing needs to be written down. that would be silly IMO.
rules and duties can be discussed. a chore list created if you forget what she wishes you to do.
at the end of the day, relationships are personal interaction, not words on paper. hence why i disagree with the govt getting involved with marriage. no paper should be needed to have a marriage happen.

 

Miss Amanda and I have seen in many male dominant D/s relationships, that there so often seems to be a rush to create a "contract". I have to add that this applies mainly to those male dominants who, inspired by 50 Shades, and believing that all you have to do to become a lifestyle dominant is to tell your sub to "Call me Sir", have no real understanding of the complex nature of the D/s relationship and the duty of care for the submissive.

In time there may be a benefit to codifying the rules, norms, and expectations of both parties, but until a deep understanding of the needs of each partner has been reached, writing down the rules is premature. Start simple, be open and honest, be considerate, and build slowly.

Just my thoughts.

 

As for legal cobtracts - almost everything mentioned here (not including chastity or flr) would be void due to beeing a contract contra bonos mores.

As forgeneral non legal contract like mentioned by miss amandas boy I think they are a good idea especially in the beginning - as they give you something you can hold to if you do not what to do.
That is if you make your 'contract' is not to narrow and might be changed as it is required.

 

Me and madam have a printed contract to each other, that we signed and keep in the safe, for madam and I, it was the act of me taking the time to design it, write it out and produce it, actually having something physical, than it actually being legally binding.