Ladies.... when you’re not feeling it

Sometimes I overwhelm my wife. I have to learn when and where to show her my love. Tough job.

 

That sums it up nicely.

 

Much of the time my wife makes me tie everything but my hands. Then she finishes leaving me helpless.

I’ve learned to make everything as tight as I can. I’ve been punished harshly for leaving a tie looser than she thinks it should be.

 

This was helpful to me. We just started the FLR recently. He brought up the subject to me. After 24 yrs of marriage and not having hubby as attentive as he is when locked is a HUGE change for me. He is all over me all the time and touching that I don’t know how to act and sometimes just don’t want all the touching.

 

Going back to the initial question, your man is craving your attention and you're not up for it. A lot of the answers would be awesome (teasing, spanking etc), but I think you're looking for something a little less involved. You don't want to give him attention, but are there ways he can give you attention? Something simple?

My approach has been foot rubs, back rubs or body rubs. On the simple, no-nonsense side of the spectrum, we watch tv on the couch both fully clothed and she dozes off while I rub her feet and leak precum under the hood ; ). A little more involved is watching tv in the bedroom and she lays face down on the bed and I give her a body rub. When I get the "leave me alone vibe," I'll approach her as if I'm a waiter giving her options, "could I interest you in a footrub, or perhaps a longer body rub tonight Ma'am?"

If my wife really really wants nothing, I've just asked her to give me a firm "no," followed by a few sentences explaining that she knows that I am horny all locked up for her, but maybe I can rub her feet tomorrow if I'm good etc.

Just some thoughts from the more vanilla side ; )

 

I know our situation is a little different but when I come home tired or stressed or I have things I need to do I just tell Hubby and he leaves me alone. He'll try to make sure I have a glass of wine or anything I might need, even a foot rub, but he mostly leaves me alone. At bedtime I can ask him to just hold me and tell me he loves me. You just have to let him know you've had a hard day. He'll respond accordingly.

 

I let my husband think he may be getting something and boy does he!!! I tie him spread eagle to our bed and blindfold him and just leave to watch TV or sleep. Sometimes I plug his ears and that put him in his own little world. I’ve fallen asleep before watching TV and left him there all night.