It's only a label - or is it??

What ever you Like to be called, is fine, My wife likes to be called by her name, while dominating me, I always yell mistress her way, It just feels like more control for her calling her Mistress, and really turns me on while submitting to her. Submission is a inborn thing,, Calling a woman Mistress while she controls and Dominates you is heaven. But as far as your name goes on here, Whatever you want is great. Its kind of like Master for a male, Mistress for a female.

 

To me mistress would suggest your dominant over some one or your some ones bit on the side.

 

i thinks it nice and polite to call Ladys Mistress.

 

When i admitted to myself that i loved being submissive and being dominated by Women then from that moment on any woman who shared a similar fantasy to mine automatically earned the right to be called Mistress by me, and as much as i love chatting with all the Mistresses who i meet on here the fact they choose to use the term to describe themselves suits me just fine. The reality of the person who i am chatting too may be so far removed from the persona i create in my mind just by adding those immortal words to their name.

 

I think a dominant woman should be addressed however she prefers. One thing I have noticed after 25 years of the BDSM scene is that people can be too opinionated, and get too-fixed ideas of what BDSM protocols are acceptable. Some people who object to a domme wanting to be addressed as 'Mistress" have some fixed idea that the term implies too much. Those folks should just calm down -- BDSM protocols are a broad range, from dommes who don't let their subs even look at their faces, to "Honey, can you buy some Lexol on the say home?". In the context of a public forum liek this one, people should just be respectful and polite, and I view those "You're not my Mistress and I won't call you that" responses as just rude.

Other times, when somone objects to a domme wanting to be called Mistress, I think it is usually because of the overall vibe of the interaction, and what they really mean is that they don't respect the particular woman's status or authority.

 

@MistressBitch Hello Mistress I wrote about this once before on the mansion and can't find it anywhere. The article I read basically said that the term Goddess was more respectful. I believe you have the right to call yourself whatever you want. I call Mistress mistress and if i don't I'm in trouble.
With respect
Slave Phil

 

Dear Mistress lol

Its up to you to be who YOU want to be.
Nothing more nothing less. If other people have trouble with it tough.

However because you are a nice person people will be happy to go along with what you choose for your self .
I do like Goddess , madam is tricky because they run brothels though used in shops and restaurants.
Mistress followed by a single initial gets confusing if more than one MB

Xx Wendy

 

@MistressBitch - Interesting outcome from the baggage in the other thread ... Thanks!

Whatever label that describes your relationship with your lover/husband/slave/maid/ etc... will work. As long as Your framework has been defined in mutual understanding and for the benefit of both parties, - You can call each other whatever turns you on, whatever speaks out driving force: the uneven divided power in a D/s relationship. etc. etc..

But - A self-proclaimed Mistress is no Mistress...
Its in the hands of a sub to raise a female to genuine Mistress status. If he see You as his Goddess, You are a Goddess! If he see You as his Mistress, You are a Mistress. Voila!
(Yes, we poor subs has some hidden powers up our sleeves after all.. lol!)

In my humble understanding some subs more than others seems to crave certain submissive "landmarks" or "rituals" to truly submit in body or/and in mind, - and one of them often seems to be calling their female Domme: Mistress.
Other subs does not need this kind of rituals. Still they can be absolutely perfect subs.
It all depends....
I have surrendered to - no - not my Mistress - but to my wife.
Do I have a ritual after all? Yes - I plunge right into submissiveness and worshipping at the speed of light, when I am caged in my steel tube;-)

Sincerly

 

When I first started messaging and talking to dominant ladies I used to address them as Mistress .
However I soon found out that not everyone liked being addressed as Mistress "don't you dare call me that i'm not your Mistress !!"etc etc.
I now use the term Miss as it is a non offensive way of addressing a dominant lady and it still shows the respect from me as a sub .

As others have said some people can be very uptight about labels and how people should address others and titles, however, at the end of the day it is up to the recipient (in this particular case @MistressBitch) how they would like to be addressed both in public and in private and other people should respect Mistress's wishes.

Just my humble opinion