How to get started with butt plug and strapon

Awesome that you have good communication with your partner - that’s key!

So as you mentioned that your wife has evolved and more domme than she thought. Trust me this will evolve more if SHE allows herself to just let go an enjoy her experience… same for you.

I used to be a “hell no” with regard to anything going on my ass other than the doctor’s finger once a year, but now (partially from the horniness and partially because I actually enjoy it),, I sometimes beg her to fuck me with her strapon. Prostate massage and milking - sign me up! Again we evolved that way.

Butt plugs are great for trying things out and dipping a toe in the water. They come in all sizes and diameters etc. Gonfor body safe silicone (they’re softer and feel better for beginners), and make sure they have a nice narrow neck with a flared base - no one wants a trip to the EC to have a foreign body removed! Often you can get a set of them - usually 3, and that gives you some sizes to try out. Then use lots of lube and a finger to warm up. Best to get warmed up all over, really turned on etc. as it will help you relax the first time. Go slow and don’t rush.

As far as strapons… most people start with cheaper more rigid dildos and that can sometimes turn them off… again, silicone is your friend here. Dual or triple density dildos are the best and most “realistic” feeling ones - and assuming you’re getting this for you to use on her. Couple best ones we’ve found are one called the “Shaft” brand - they have several sizes and these feel really close to the real thing. We have 3 in different sizes. Get one that’s close to your own size and try it out on her and then if she wants, bump up a size so she can get a completely different experince. Another good but pricy one is the Straponme line, they have a nice feel and we have one that has the tube and syringe so you can simulate ejaculation (my wife loves that).

For a harness, spare parts deuce is easily the best - has two holes so you can mount two dildos for double penetration or have the dildo up and the real thing through the other hole either for the same reason or just to bounce around.

We really enjoy this and prob have more PIV with me locked and using the strapon on her now than using the real thing.

 

Lube, lube, lube, and lube! You can never use to much lube. As for size shape ect, start small and work your way up till you find what you enjoy and are comfortable with.

 

I'd also suggest investing in an enema bulb. Use until you're only flushing clean water, and you'll avoid unpleasant messes.

 

Strapons aren't our thing but plugs and beads are sometimes. Start small with lots of lube. I'm picky about a large base on a plug, preferably a t handle type. That ER conversation be one of my worst personal nightmares. Amazon has decent starter sets with various sizes for pretty cheap.

 

I agree about the large base.
Occasionally, I've looped a shoelace around the bottom of a plug, just in case it gets sucked inside.

 

All great info and advice here...speaking from experience.

One preference/recommendation... try a glass plug. For me, with lube, they insert easier and the weight feels very different then most other plugs.

Also as some point if you work up a bit in size, I know you mentioned not liking anything playing around your prostate, you might try something like a Lovense vibrating butt plug. Its a new experience from a "static" plug and gives your dominant partner something to tease and play with (using the remote functions)