How strict do we wish to be as k/h’s?

Discussion in 'Chastity and orgasm denial' started by Her_LM, Jun 18, 2023.

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How strict do we wish to be as k/h’s?

  1. K/h wants complete control over him!

    55.6%
  2. K/h wants partial control over him!

    33.3%
  3. K/h wants partial guidance from him!

    11.1%
  4. K/h wants complete guidance from him!

    3.7%
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    Hi,
    This is now the reverse of our earlier question, this is from my k/h.

    Do k/h’s want complete control over him, to do as they please without any input from him?

    Do k/h’s want partial control over him but will take their considerations etc into account?

    Do k/h’s want a little control but are mostly guided by what he wants?

    Do k/h’s want to be completely lead by him?

    Thanks.
    I’m not sure if many wives will reply, I certainly hope so, I would love to know how they mostly feel.

    Just to let you know, I started on the bottom question, but I’m now at the stage where I’m in the strict stage. We discussed our wants & needs in the beginning, so I have an understanding of what my LM wants and needs out of this lifestyle.
    Strictness, I think is what he ultimately wants, but more importantly, I love my strictness, and my way is final.

    Thank you. X
     
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    Hello

    I'm Her_LM k/h,

    Any thoughts or comments from partners, wives, k/h's? Would love to know them, just to see how some feel, think etc.

    It helps me in my journey...

    Thank you. x
     
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    I am not a keyholder, and have no desire to be one. However, if I were to be one, I would have no interest in exercising control over anything other than orgasms. I wouldn't want to control what someone wears, what they eat, what household chores they do, or any of that stuff.
     
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    Hi
    Thanks for your reply. Maybe i should of wrote my post differently, i did'nt mean total control over all aspects of his life! I should of made it clearer, i suppose i'm just referring to our sex life and his wish for me to control it. Like you, i'm not into telling him what to wear, eat etc, thats not for me either, but i do love having complete control over locking him up and our sex life, i do enjoy saying, when, where, how etc, i do love that control, it gives me a huge boost to myself.
    I did say at the begining of the year i'd only allow him a few orgams this year, i reached that figure 2 weeks ago, so now, with my strict control, i'm not allowing him any more this year, it doesn't benefit me if he does have an orgasm, thats the sort of strict control i'm trying to say.

    Ps, i do give him some chores sometimes, if i can't be bothered to do them, or i'm feeling sexually teasing....

    Thanks again.
     
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    Nailed it, my partner doesn't want to control me...well much, she does like me serving her, and doesn't have a issue asking me to do tings and I do jump to her whim.

    She DOES however have complete control when or if we have sex, and if I have a orgasm or not which is usually as she likes me to cum with her.

    So pertaining to the above I would choose complete control over that aspect.
     
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    My Madam wants and has total control over me, she made it clear this was her want from the very beginning so it wasn’t a surprise. And as a life long submissive it’s what I had fantasied about. It was difficult at times in he beginning, but I ajiusted to it and now I wouldn’t change any of it.
     
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    Similar to how my GF is.

    If she said she wanted to control me it just wouldn't work.
     
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