How Does Submissive Sex Work in the Age of #MeToo?

Hi-I’ve only recently logged on to this site again for the first time in a few months which is why I am replying so belatedly. Anyway I read the article and noted that it’s about female sexual submissives and their subjective experience of tension and dissonance given their loyalty to the #metoo movement and enjoyment of at the very least, rough sex. I am glad the conclusion is “don’t worry” because the two mindsets ought to be compatible-after all, #metoo protests against assault etc. not consensual rough sex. However I wanted to point out that one of the positive things about CM for me is that it makes a self centred (but not abusive) hopelessly unfulfilled horny male like me really notice how deeply my (unrequited) sexual desire permeates my perception of the women I desire. That being said, I’m not sure I’ll actually ever get a KH; for that, I’d need to be sure that the KH was a good person. Sounds corny and unhorny I know, but it’s only the converse of #metoo. In other words, what is missing from the NYT article in my view is any statement about the difference between good and bad guys who practise rough sex-I don’t mean bad relationship material I mean socially harmful guys, rather than guys whose life/work is making the world a better place overall in the view of the female submissive he is having rough sex with. It is as if we have lost the idea of a broader non sexual social world.