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    He is topping from the bottom. This won't work. It's not for him to state whether, and if so how, you have sex with others. That said, you MAY want sex with one or other of them; but you need to explain it needs to be on your terms. One avenue to put it could be: if/when you've decided one you fancy, would HE wear a device too, to come off only when you decide you're in the mood?
     
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    Hi Claudette,

    This is very much your boyfriend controlling the relationship and using the threat of ending your relationship as blackmail. Do you really want to be married to someone who is blackmailing you so that he can pimp you out to his friends? I think it is time to sit down and reevaluate exactly where this relationship is going and if you want to be there at all. It may be that he will decide against marriage anyway using the excuse that you have had sex with his friends.

    It is time to stop and think before doing anything more.
     
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    That sounds very unhealthy. It's all very well that he has chastity and cuckold fantasies and seems to have captured your imagination regarding the chastity, but this sounds like a rather extreme case of topping from the bottom. Extreme enough to say that to an outsider it looks tantamount to him trying to pimp you out without your consent.

    For D/s to work means that both parties consent to what activities they get up to. You should never feel pressured in to doing something you don't want to do. If you do, then where will he stop ? First his friends and then random men off the street ? All to gratify a fantasy of his that you do not share.

    Without knowing either of you I'd hesitate to say dump him, but if he really shows so little consideration to your needs and limits then it seems that he as the "sub" is the one controlling the relationship.
     
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    That could well be the case too (though it mightn't): but in case it is, then I agree with Mistress Jules 100%
     
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    @Claudette This gets more and more ridiculous. For heavens sakes tell him to GO.
     
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    MistressL I'm through

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    Violence? You be gone, girl.
     
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    Dear friends,

    I broke my engagement wedding with my boyfriend, he is too self-destructive. I followed some of the advice of the members of this forum but he has not changed his nature.
    I learned a lot about male chastity and FemDom, I would like to apply my knowledge to my next boyfriend but from the beginning of courtship.
    I'm not sure if I can stay a member of this forum but I would like to keep learning.
    Thanks to all for the help.

    Kisses

    Claudette
     
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    Claudette, I am so very proud of your strength and courage. You are much better being on your own than with someone who as you say is so self destructive and would also have brought you to his levels of destruction. I wish you well in the future.
     
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    If you have any inclination regarding male chastity you should stay with us!!!
     
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