Helping a busy woman become more dominant.

Our rule is that my desire to be locked should never inconvenience my wife in any way. She is very busy as well and I’m the creative one so I do as squire suggested in an earlier post. I come up with an idea and just do it and gauge her reaction. She usually likes anything I do to shower her with attention or to make her life easier, but she’s not afraid to tell me if she wants it to stop. I ask myself “what is the most important thing I can do right now to make her life easier or to make her feel like the admired Lady she is?” Recently, I was trying to think of an alternate title for her that could be used in mixed company, something easier to explain than “Mistress”. I wanted to find out what title she preferred but I knew if I asked she wouldn’t be able to tell me. I decided to try out “Lady D…” (her first name). I tried it out a couple of times when I answered the phone and she said that title made her feel old. I got my answer and she didn’t have to waste time thinking about it. Hope that helps.

 

…oh, and I also rephrase things like instead of saying “I’m going outside with the dog and have a cigar” I say, “would you mind if I go outside with the dog and have a cigar?” I defer insignificant details to her which enhances our role experience in the kink, and which coincidentally is just being a considerate husband. Apparently, she has to lock my penis for me to do the right thing!

 

I know exactly what you mean.

 

Now you’ve really got me interested! How did that happen? Tell us everything!

 

How do you feel about other people knowing? Does it bother you or do you kind of dig it?

I’m getting ready to buy my wife a symbolic key necklace (she doesn’t like the way the Holy Trainer v5 key looks as jewelry) and the one she likes is advertised as symbolizing different kinks. I’m wondering if some of our family is going to know what it is and embarrass her by asking. I think we’re going to have to come up with a plan on how to respond.