Hello I am newly locked and having problems with coming to term with it. My wife has fully embraced the lifestyle and I would love to chat or meet up with other locked men to better understand the lifestyle
Welcome. Lots of locked married guys here who will be glad to share experiences. Please share how this started (whose idea, why), how your wife became the keyholder, what the two of you are hoping to achieve with your chastity, and what problems you're having coming to terms with it. We've all been there.
We got into talking about exploring, she started to explore and things started to happen quickly and we were talking about it over a few weeks and she came one one day and with a device.
Well You are a lucky guy! A lot of guys here are still trying to get their significant other to even consider this or a kink bdsm life stuff. It’s a lot for some people to process! So You are way ahead of the game and with her being the one to initiate you may be in for a long ride and a lot of fun!!!!
i am surprised that so many do this to be honest, do any of you ever meet up for coffee and talk about this
We're all over the world, so we just meet up here. Talk away, brother. What are you having trouble coming to terms with? As Ma'am's Slut said, many of us would think you're ahead of the game. What has she told you about what she's seeking? What do you think about giving her those things?
Well to be fair I was alway Into bdsm kink stuff femdom and me a sub so at my earliest thoughts of any kind of sex this was always a part of me so it’s just in me. You may of never been interested in any of this and her pushing it on you may be a huge deal. So for most of us that is a dream come true but if you are not of that kinda place then I fully understand that this is a shock and hey it’s all good ! Everything here is ok as long as it’s consensual!!
Perhaps when you have more time to explain we can sit and talk. There's obviously a lot going on that you're trying to process, and we're here to help, but it's hard to go in depth on what's obviously a very big subject to you based on one sentence.
Hi @Cjustlocked is your keyholders a member here and if not maybe she might join and become a verified female and I think that all keyholders she be members here to learn from the experienced.
Welcome @Cjustlocked lots of nice people here who will be happy to answer any questions and help. It's great your partner introduced you to it most of the time it's the male doing it. Take things slow communication is key and relax and enjoy.
my wife and i started to talk about her flirting with other men and she started to do that and enjoyed it. after she started to do that i asked her to stop as it made me uncomfortable and she wanted to continue. we have been talking about it for a while and she brought home a device on night and wanted me to wear it.
Interesting that you have a friend with knowledge of chastity -- most of us find our way alone and eventually show up here. So that's two ways you're coming at this lifestyle with more support than the rest of us (the other being that she initiated it).
Well I can see Yiur issue if she wants to flirt with other guys and You are not into that. That can be tough. The longer some people are locked the more horny they get and agree to more things which some people enjoy others may not. So I would think You and her at need to talk but it sounds like you guys are off to a good start and you even have a friend that does the lock up thing which like others have stated is a big deal . And helpful to have people to talk to
The plot thickens. Were you the one who first raised the issue of her flirting? What does she say about why she wants to continue? About putting you in chastity? What has she said about her objective with chastity, what she's trying to achieve? Have you previously been submissive to her?