F/m...Happily married 12 years... both 35ish years old. We have been playing/experimenting for couple of months now. i (hubby) am into everything found on a "google search" for FLR. Her (wife) is coming around slowly. She likes my chastity but, doesn't make me wait long inbetween orgasms, she likes to watch it shoot out! Who am i to argue... lol. We have a set of rules but, not enforced. i am hoping that some forum discussion with healthy, "normal", actively playing couples will bring Her further out of the vanilla stronghold that has Her!! Crazy people need not apply, and keep your dick pics! Like i said normal people only!! -Lockeddown4Her
Each couple progresses according to their own direction and decisions made along the way. We began with chastity on the honor system and soon She learned that I was not being "honorable", so the cage was introduced as a wanking prevention device used primarily when we are apart. Then, She caught me wearing panties and decided to feminize me, little by little. All of this happened as a result of good and open communication based on what each of us found interesting and enjoyable. They have been several missteps along the way, but good communication overcomes those things!
Her knows honor system would be a disaster. i have brought all of this stuff up to Her. So its been overwhelming for her. Patience isn't a quality i have, so the wrong frustration builds. But we continue playing, so we're good.
I would consider us in a similar situation which is probably what you meant by "normal". We have been involved in chastity for a couple of years and he is much more kinky than I am. I am pretty vanilla still. Efforts to increase my non-vanilla knowledge and try new things will always move slow for me as I prefer to process what he would like first. I would be more than happy to chat with her if she would like.