my wife and I have played around with chastity and what she calls kinky sex for awhile. It's always been a game and has been fun. Our problem is it has always been me being the dominant one. Even when I'm locked. She says I need to learn how to be more submissive and I tell her she needs to be more dominant. How hard was it for you to change from top to bottom?
Lol not difficult but becomes a very complex game. Beware of subs becoming tops the know all the tricks and what makes subs tick . They can be very interesting play mates . Xx Wendy
I have heard of "switches" that regularly change when the fancy takes them but to find what was once a dedicated dominant changing to a complete submissive is rather rare and I can't see you getting too many replies to this. Submissive to dominant is more common.
Its hard. Not that I have been sexualy dominant, but in all other areas. Handing it over to my wife feels good. But it's a struggle to not take command of the situations . Its getting better and better....
My boy and I are both switches. Though I dominate more readily and more often, sometimes he is hard to tame, and I can empathize with your wife expecting you to "play nicely" right out of the gate. But so can I understand that sometimes you just don't want to play nice, but rather make her earn the right to have you. I recommend not pushing this burden onto one person. Meet in the middle. You can help her by allowing yourself to overreact a bit to her fierceness/punishment and be overwhelmed by her affections. Both of these are things I do to further my own submissiveness when I'm on the bottom; it's fun to feel overwhelmed, right? You can also help her by having a frank talk with her and reassuring her that it's okay to let loose and be more sadistic against you. Being the top, for me, is quite freeing. I can be as mean as I want! Help her understand that she is allowed to have her dominant role be an escape.
I think once you give your wife the reins she slowly becomes confident .....then you have no choice any more