Last night after my oral duties, I was let out for some fun for the first time after 6 days. She wanted to feel the real thing inside her, yet instructed me I wasn’t allowed to finish. When she took off my cage. I had two problems. First was extreme sensitivity, which I read was very normal. Second was maintaining a strong erection, which made it awkward. Something I noticed and this could be my answers… Any advice helps. After I showered, she had me lay on the bed. Before locking me back, she teased me and played with it while before locking me back. The sensitivity had dropped and I was beginning to get rock hard again. She had to ice it and make it shrink before putting it in. Does time help it adjust back when out. Should she let it out further ahead instead of right when she expects it to be used? Are there any tips or tricks. I didn’t want her to be disappointed in my performance, although my other skills are becoming better as I still made her happy.
Numbing cream and a condom will take care of being too sensitive. A great tease is for her to give you some oral first. It feels amazing after a few weeks in the cage. Then, as she applies the numbing cream, she can tell you how good her orgasm will be while you feel nothing. Enjoy.
Thanks for this. I guess when I think about it, we rushed to piv without the normal foreplay and attention she would have given me prior. I guess in the past week, it has been me giving her countless orgasms without any attention to myself and we have become accustomed to her first. That has altered our normal behavior. I lost the right to oral from her or to ask for it in our contract. I am the main provider, and she chooses if she wants to give it. In this case I may ask her if she would consider ways to help me after being confined. The desire was there. Just not the full hardness.
My wife will sometimes give me a Viagra a couple hours before unlocking me. Couple that with as previously mentioned, numbing cream and a condom or 2 or 3.
Maintaining an orgasm is, against all logic, a bit of an issue after being locked up a while. It comes back after a couple of days but that's no help in your situation. Just concentrate, that's about all the help I can give. Good luck.
I just posted a similar question yesterday. After days of play I find myself unable to get hard when released for piv play.
We are planning to change things up next time. She determined she will give me warning when I will be released. She doesn’t care as she knows I don’t know if it’s for piv, teasing while restrained or punishment. She plans to let me out a Cooke hours before. She added to our agreement, that when she does. Her property must be in her presence at all times till she locks it back. That way there is no worry of me misbehaving. We both think some time out lets things adjust back. I will be more prepared and ready for whatever she chooses. I’ll let you know if that ever happens. I’m starting to believe this period will be much longer.
I think the Viagra or Cialis suggestions are something to think about. I definitely don’t want to get caught in a cage with it taking effect…lol..ouch!
I've found that if you do get one, the first orgasm after the cage comes off is pretty lack-luster. I go pretty quickly after not having one in a while, but it's a pretty unsatisfying orgasm. It all just leaks out and no fireworks, etc. If I get a second one (the next day) that one is amazing. Usually when we play it's a couple of days in a row, then nothing for a while. Just wish I could figure out why that first one is always a huge let down.
My Madam found it highly amusing how quickly I would lose my erection when she first started releasing me from chastity, but it does wear off over time.