Did you choose your sexual fetish/proclivity?

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yes......

 

I know how I got into S&M. At the age of 13 I was slapped in the face very hard by an early developed girl with big breast after I grabbed them. It was my first time feeling boobs and I got slapped for being a jerk. However when I got home I masturbated to the thought of her slapping me. After that she was in every sexual fantasy I had and what she did to me escalated over time.

Long story short, I married her best friend but did not know that my future wife was her best friend at first. To make this short I will just say that my wife asked her to have sex with me since my wife is not into BDSM. Her girlfriend is naturally dominant and would actually sigh with pleasure as she hurt me. She lived with us for 7 years and then part time for another 23 years after she married a cuckold she found online.

Fate is funny because I ended up with the girl who started me down the path of BDSM. Over the years our S&M play escalated to heights that I rather not discuss here. It was very intense. She also introduced me to just about any fetish most people can think of and even a few that few were aware of. So I know how my main fetish started. One more thing. I do not know if it is a fetish or not but I did not realize until I was 64 that all three of my relationship which included my ex fiance, a live in girlfriend who dominated and cuckolded me, and my wife, are all bisexual. I did not know that until well into the relationship. I seem to be a bi magnet for some reason. My wife prefers women but wants me to be the only male in her life. We tested that and she hated sex with another man and swore off of doing that again. My first fiancee was married to a guy for 20 years and now married to a woman for 23 years. The middle or rebound girlfriend is in parts unknown but surfaced once to ask me to impregnate her because I have desirable genetic traits. I told her no and never heard from her again.

 

I arrived at chastity through experimentation with tease and denial. Chasing a better high, I found online instructions that guided you through prolonged edging without release. Searching through the rest of the posts on there, I really liked the idea of extending a tease through the use of a chastity device. Now here I am, and I am glad to have the Mrs. along for the ride to push me further.

 

I discovered Ds territory during my puberty and into chastity I was introduced by my girlfriend in my late teens, but when I look back my submission was always part of me. I became aware of it during my puberty, which is - I think - healthy and normal.

 

Feel some of both. Like this way of life choose me to a certain degree, and it was up to me to either choose it or deny it.
But,because I was aware of it and desired it for so long, I choose to accept and pursue it. It also helped that I have a loving Bride and KH who showed me that it was OK to be honest with her and to pursue and accept this fetish or proclivity. Lucky me.(most of the time)

 

After years of porn viewing and self indulgence I didn't feel right about myself and felt that I was missing something. I also wasn't paying nearly enough attention to my wife at that point to because I had eliminated a good majority of my sexual drive with daily masturbation. When I was bored with the porn I was looking at I moved in looking for something new and exciting. I stumbled across cuckold which introduced me to the idea of chastity. Although at this point I have no desire to be a cuckold the idea of being dominated by my wife and locked in chastity seemed like a win win situation for our relationship. Now all of my attention is lovingly focused on my mistress and I can no longer self pleasure. Our relationship just keeps getting stronger with this change.