Definitions vary, these are mine and may or may not be helpful to you: Defined in D/s context: Top: the one who is doing the thing to another. Bottom: the one who is having the thing done to them. Thing: fucking, oral, spanking, whipping, flogging, massage, electrical play, pegging, humiliating, tying, etc. Things are simply activities they are neither Dominant nor submissive. So when your Dominant partner asks you or demands that you provide the service of: oral, pegging, massage a spanking etc. A good submissive or slave needs to be a good Top. So are you a good top?
One of the things that changed over time, she directs me in those activities. So, I think I am still a bottom following instruction. She loves it!
I respectfully disagree. You are a submitting to her request to Top her. While being a Bottom she is still the Dominant partner. Topping or Bottoming really have no correlation to being Dominant or submissive.
I no longer Dom her, after being cuckolded by her those activities are permitted to her bulls, I have no say in what they do, or what she participates in. It’s her choice, 100%!
my apologies, I didn’t read your post properly, I still massage her, it’s one thing Im good at! Neck, shoulders, back, hands, feet, legs, Madam will have me massage her for hours! im not permitted to give her oral as she finds my ability inferior and infuriating. If I’ve been well behaved I am allowed to kiss/lick it when she gets back after a date night. And it amuses her to have me kiss her bruises better, and her boots/shoes. But I don’t get to tie her up, spank her ect any more.