Anyone genuinely unhappier with their sex life since introducing chastity?

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    We hear, “be careful what you wish for” a lot, but are there men out there who are genuinely unhappier* with their sex life since chastity was introduced into their relationship.

    Note the use of the word unhappier, and not the term “less satisfied” - as the latter is a given!
     
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    No, but my sex life is both awesome and frequent. She just controls when and how, how long and what kind of bondage amuses her at that time.
     
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    Nope. Mine is even better. Mistress even makes sure I pretty much stay horny as much as possible and I am constantly leaking precum. Now as far as having an orgasm is a different story. I wish I could hav an explosive one but mistress just keeps me at the edge of one, and about once a week in the shower she will make sure I get drained but no orgasm. Maybe on out anniversary at the end of the year. Keeping fingers crossed
     
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    I`m really coming out of my shell I was told yesterday and I feel alive.
     
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    I don't think there are people unhappier. What there are though are people who thought it would be something else or would go in a different direction and are disappointed. But still, their relationships are generally better.
     
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    It’s been a boost to our sex life. What had gotten stale and boring, has become fresh and exciting for both of us.
     
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    Previous me would hate this life. Just warning you that the previous version of you won't understand, can't understand, and won't like what happens.

    Current version of me loves this.

    Future version of me is likely to continue loving this.

    But what really matters: My wife is (almost always) happy with me. And as a bonus, I am content for the first time in my life.
     
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    Can honestly say I’m (we’re) much happier as we evolved in the lifestyle. We have sex much more frequently than before. She takes the opportunity to grab/grope me here and there where she didn’t always (because she knows she controls it all and whether that “starts something” or not)… ultimately that control she has opens it up for her to initiate etc. and without pressure.
     
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    We are both happier
     
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    It comes in waves.

    Sometimes I am unhappier because I am so horny I don't know what to do.

    Other times I am blissfully horny and couldn't be happier.
     
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    My sex life is less frequent… but every time anything happens I can rest assured knowing my wife wanted it to. There is no sense of duty, just two adults enjoying themselves.

    Some may classify that as ‘getting worse’… I still feel happier!
     
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    Can't say, got my first cage before ever having a sex life.
     
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    The tension between unhappy and less satisfied is difficult at times! They can seem one in the same at some points in time and dramatically different at others.

    But we've never had "sex" as often as we do now even though I'm rarely let out of the cage. And I wouldn't trade it for what we had before chastity.
     
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    No not at all. I know what I signed up for!
     
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    I'm happier just more frustrated. Which in odd way makes me happy majority of time. There's times my brain screams I need to cum wtf is wrong with you lol. Never what I'd call unhappy though.
     
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    You've got it man!
     
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    There is a lot of cognitive dissonance and conflicting emotions involved in chastity.
     
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    Nope! Much happier!
     
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    What is a sex life?
    It's been almost seven years without one, already, and even before then it was very sporadic. I haven't had a happy sex life since around the year 2000, I would say.
    That's around the time when I discovered chastity, which, now I'm permanently locked, kind of makes living without sex somewhat more bearable. So, I am certainly less unhappy about my lack of a sex life thanks to chastity.
     
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    We had a few periods of chastity over the years. Few of them didn't work very well. The main challenge was the level of attention he was looking for vs what I was willing to give.
     
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    There are times that my mind starts to go crazy with thoughts of WTF did I do, giving up daily piv and the dominance I had over my Wife to be locked away and only have piv a couple or few times a month that doesn’t end with orgasm for me.

    But those thoughts usually pop up when she’s at work, and after a few moments of feeling sorry for myself I’m able to snap myself out of it. I know we’re both actually happier living this way. All of our sexual experiences now are much more fulfilling, and I never thought we’d feel closer to each other than pre chastity, and yet somehow we do. Then when she’s around me again, a calmness comes over me and I want to serve her and worship her, and all those selfish thoughts and feelings just melt away, and I’m able to lean into the frustration and lust again.

    Over these last two years of much more serious chastity, my Wife will grant me a few days of freedom occasionally and we have more piv and she may grant a couple orgasms. She’s either wondering if we could go back to pre chastity living, or she’s brilliantly allowing me to have that taste because she knows it always makes me realize that I’m truly happier and crave being locked and denied. Either way, those freedom periods have become very rare, but they’re quite effective to remind me to just keep obeying her and be locked and focus my energy on pleasing her. I do know that this lifestyle has made me much less selfish about sex, and that I feel better all around when I’m not cumming so often.
     
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    We are definitely happier, i seem to crave more denial as i get older and She is more than willing to make sure i get what i want.
     
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    i am more happy now cos i am not a man no more and i dont have to keep thinking what to do cos i am tell what to do now.
     
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    nope, not at all! very happy and satisfied, as is my fiance!
     
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    We've done this for a long time, so there are lots of ups and downs in life (both regular life and any aspect of sex life) It's great when we both feel invested, but the "magic feather" effect can wear off anything during hard times.
     
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