As our relationship has evolved, as it is for many of you, we have acquired and tried things over time related to chastity. Over a year ago my KH got a strap on and has used it twice and has recently hinted in trying again and bringing it further into our relationship (no pun intended). I asked her “what do you get out of it?” as to me I am always concerned that she is doing everything for her joy ultimately. She responded in one word “Power”. I was initially aroused but it was the follow up that got me. “Is it having the appendage that makes you feel that way?” Her reply “If you think I need another appendage to have power over you, you are wrong.” This led to another wonderful honest exchange which I do enjoy with my KH. She suggested that what I enjoy is the release from the device and then is informed her while this is partly true I enjoy also the restriction. I confessed that I now find joy in being released or being denied. It has become a win win for me now. Hence why I continue to be concerned about her needs as mine are being fulfilled.