13 months ago I was in a downward spiral addicted to POM (Porn Orgasm Masturbation). It was completey out of hand I watched porn on my mobile and was on the hunt for a place to do it myself almost constantly, i felt my work was suffering but mainly my marriage. I had previously tried to stop but was unsucesful. Then when I wanted to stop again I remembered those chastity devices and that is how I got in to Chastity. In all my research (will list stuff that helped me below) I did before coming clean with my wife and asking her for help with it healing my POM I saw that one of the benefits of having ones penis locked up by the person you love is that you stop fantasizing about porn and start fantasizing about your wife again. The only important thing if that should come true is to also stop watching porn. It came 100% true for me. I still fantasize a lot about sex. But I fantasize about Sex with my wife. A different and much better Sex than i have ever had. Also I am much more productive and don't have to search for excuses to step out to take care of my business. I am soooo happy and so in Love with my wife. I am very happy and fully in love again What were the changes in your relationship when you discovered chastity and got serious about it? Some of the stuff that helped me at the time: One of the articles that helped me http://www.chastitytube.com/controling.html Ted Talk The great Porn Experiment:
I was ignoring my wife for porn too when I discovered chastity. This month marks the end of the 4th year I have been locked in chastity. However, although I do not masturbate anymore, I still enjoy watching porn. If I do not, I lose interest in sex altogether.
We used to only get around to having sex together every other week or so. During the week we'd end up looking at porn at different times, her while I was at work and myself before sleep. Ever since we started orgasm denial and chastity for me, we've been having sex every other day, we're both sore! In terms of the relationship, we feel much closer than before. We're both much more in tune with each other's body. Also, the orgasm denial keeps me in a better and more loving mood. I want to do more things for her, touch her more and make her happy. The sex is amazing, but even outside the bedroom we are connected in an intimate way. Although we didn't have any relationship issues before, and we both communicated well and paid attention, it's gotten even better. Now we're even happier than before, which might lead to much much fewer orgasms for me in the foreseeable future
You said it so much better than me. what you describe is exactly how i feel also and while I still very much loved my wife we were heading in a bad direction with our Mariage and after one year in Chastity I can say that the ship has completely turned
thanks for your input Vinny. Interesting that it works different for you. I had lapsed a few times in the past year and my receipe is "no porn" for me personally the porn has to stay out. I also don't watch tumblrs.
My changes, are mostly with attitude after sex. In general, I tend to put sex, flirting, showing affection, and probably some other traits i'm not even aware of, out of my mind. Obviously its not on purpose, but I am aware of it. So, even though I don't orgasm nearly as much as I used to, have found that I don't fall into some of the old relationship pitfalls that I had done in the past. We flirt all the time, we still have sex quite often, I just don't know when I will cum. She has grown into her role, and even decided upon more of a flr type that incorporates discipline, and some basic rules. We are pretty happy
Oh! I forgot to mention, what helped redirect both our porn viewing was to start a shared Tumblr together. That way, it even makes our own private porn viewing a shared experience. We both 'like' posts we enjoy, then we reblog each other's liked pictures. In the end, we end up with a blog that only has posts we both really like and maybe even inspire our own activities At this point, I'm personally living the sex life I used to search for in fetish porn videos. Porn now only helps further the experience of our sexual activities rather than take attention away from it.