My wife and I have been married for 17 years. In 2010 we started playing with chastity. It is a somewhat serious but intermittent kink. I will typically be locked 24/7 for 1-2 month without PIV (although we went up to 9 months once . Then we will be vanilla again for 2/3 months. When we are vanilla, we have a typical once a week sex life. In 2012 we became poly-amorous. I can date (If I’m not in chastity) and I have had several not too serious partners. My wife has had steady BFs for most of the past 10 years. She has been with her current BF for 5 years. He lives with us part time. So when I’m in chastity, she fucks her BF, and cuddles and play with me. When I am not locked, she has sex with the both of us, and I have occasional extra partners, if things line up. So am I a cuckold?
Please note, this is not a serious question! I am just curious in hearing your thoughts on cuckolding dynamics since my situation is not that common!
It seems to me that you are a cuck while in chastity. I am glad that you take breaks now and then to re-connect sexually with your wife. I have a cuckold fantasy very similar to your arrangement. It will probably always remain a fantasy. I think it's hot for the wife to keep the husband in chastity while she has her fun. But, I think it's critical that at some point he gets to reclaim his wife.
Thanks for your answer @Fisherman When I am in Chastity and my wife is fucking her BF, I generally feel like I’m in a cuckolding relationship. For your comment about reclaiming my wife, I don’t know if it’s as necessary as you think. We have had long period of chastity 4-6 month, and 9 month one time, where all the sex between us was her receiving oral sex, and then pegging me regularly. I think we felt really close, and I doubt she felt like she needed to be reclaimed But it really depends on each couple and how important PIV is in their bonding. Some people do cuckolding where the wife looks for a more satisfying lover. What can the husband reclaim then ? it’s not exactly our situation, although I am fairly certain my wife has had BF who satisfied her more, and I think that’s the case at the moment
Cuckolding and Chastity are only related for people who feel like it. I don’t see the relationship between cuckolding and getting knocked up. Getting kid is a life decision that shouldn’t randomly happen as a consequence of your sex life…
Do every man desire his manhood and sexual liberty? It doesn’t seem like it’s the case on this forum. Now I’m not one of them, and it is not how Chastity works for me. In the end, it’s up to the couple to determine what creates intimacy, bonding and love, and work to maintain it!
Hi this is a very good question and I would have to say no you are not a cuckold because she is not Being unfaithful to you when she have sex with another man, here is what is says in the Oxford English Dictionary—- Engaging in sexual relations with a person other than one’s regular partner in contravention of a previous promise or understanding. It is the last sentence that do not make you a Cuckold. For I believe that you are living in an open marriage where both you and your wife have a clear understanding of boundaries. Great great Question.
Oh yes from that definition I’m not. I have been once, but not anymore. i guess the cuckolding kink is different from the dictionary definition, as the cuckold consents to his situation.
Wiki states- ] A husband who is aware of and tolerates his wife's infidelity is sometimes called a wittol or wittold.[2]