A question for the Dom/mes: how do you like to be addressed by subs with whom you don't have a Ds relationship? For example another user on here. Some subs call every Dom/me "Sir" or "Mistress" and i know some tops like this. Others dislike a total stranger addressing them this way. Personally i've always thought it presumptuous of the sub. Unless/until we agree to play we're two people on equal footing. i prefer to get to know people as people first. The honorifics come later and emphasise the shift in the dynamic. But that's just my opinion. What do you think?
I agree with addressing them as Miss/Sir and politely ask the person how they would like to be addressed . Remember they are real people behind the title (I know i'm probably telling you things you probably already know) and don't flood them with your "wish list" I made these mistakes when i first started out and I hope others can avoid these pitfalls I made and make both the subs and the Domme's /Doms lives easier.
Sometimes it is quite obvious however sure fire way as @manintyres has said just ask politely. Let them choose how or what they call you. Not sure about changing how you addresses people once you agree to play. I just try to to be nice from the start. Xx Wendy
Everyone is different but from any sub I would like to be called 'Miss' or 'Miss Charlotte' as I think this is respectful. I guess I feel it's like when you were a kid and you saw a teacher who's not yours, you still call them Miss Jones or whatever as a sign of respect. It doesn't mean I expect them to kiss my feet but manners never go out of fashion.