Look at me, posting a thread for once... I have a friend with long-distance benefits, as it were, and he used to be pretty dommy and kinky and actively enjoying the exploration of his sub's (me) desperate horniness. However, as time has gone by it seems like he's growing less and less interested in actually being in charge of anything. Rather, it seems he would rather have a faceless power bottom/drone to assertively get his rocks off and then leave him alone. I don't think it's just me, being overtly needy. No, I'm less so than when we had the most fun. This is largely a vent, yes, but it's not another one of those threads where the locked guy is asking how to make his wife more interested. I don't want to make him more interested. I want a dom. It's just sucky looking back at how great he was at being in charge and now just.... doesn't want to be. I understand people change and I'm not going to hold it against him. Has anyone else gone through this with their keyholder?
It could be that either the long-distance or friends-with-benefits or both situations aren’t doing it for him anymore. Have you tried talking to him directly about it?
All relationships change, and long distance ones are particularly prone to something changing. You need to talk it through. Good luck