It has been fun recently watching the antics of the fake dommes. I imagine them as wizened old fisherman sitting on the end of the pier with multiple rods dangling in the sea, waiting for the desperate and unwary sub to swim by and take a bite. When the desperate sub bites they reel them in and try to land them with credit card charges. Experienced subs know the drill. We know they're scammers, we know that the hot, strict 25-30 year old domme with a stolen picture is most probably male in reality and we leave them to their own devices and ignore them, though there is the occasional irritation when they spam you with inappropriate messages without reading your profile. Whilst enjoying the recent sport there is one additional aspect that is not so edifying. There are a number of sub accounts here that have been chasing these apparent dommes in apparent desperation to submit to anything that indicates that it may dress in a skirt. Not only that, they also chase virtually every female that logs on with the same desperation. We then see these same subs complaining that no mistress is interested in dealing with them without using their credit card. Wake up and smell the coffee guys, what did you really expect ? Did you expect that mistresses grow on trees ? That there is a pool of brainless women desperate to cater to every kink in your imagination ? Let's get this straight, the ratio of dominant women to sub men is around 1 in 100. That's right, if you're not prepared to take your chances with the ones asking for your credit card, the rest can afford to be very very picky as to who they want to interact with. If you're complaining that you can't find the mistress of your dreams to perform all the perversions you've scripted in your mind, then you've seriously misunderstood the dynamic and are looking at things from the wrong end of the microscope. Approaching a domme with "I will be your devoted slave provided you do xxx, yyy, zzz with me on cam" is not going to impress any domme, they probably won't even laugh before deleting it and they will almost certainly ignore you in future because you've just told them that you're an a-hole. So what do you do ? For a start buck up your ideas. As a member of the 1 in 100 you need to find some way of standing out from the crowd that actually impresses a potential domme, piques their interest and shows your personality. Despite that kinky script in your head a domme is, believe it or not, a real woman with a real brain, her own needs and desires. They have real lives that do not involve wearing leather corsets 24/7 and catering to your every whim. I know this sounds depressing when all you want is to indulge your fantasy and have a good wank, but it is the reality. Let me put it this way, would you go up to an unknown woman in a bar and ask "Can I be your devoted slave ? I'll let you do all these things to me." Sounds stupid, huh ? Liable to get you arrested for sexual harassment ? So why do it online to any profile that ticks the box marked female ? If the desperate slaves reading this do not understand this, then please just get used to typing in your credit card number as it's the only option you'll have.
It looks even bleaker in black and white doesn,t it? you hit the nail on the head with your summarisation and it should be essential reading to all those wannabees out there looking for that elusive keyholder. Better to have the information inside your head before being persuaded from your hard earned money by some all promising mystery persona who just happens to be looking for another meal ticket. There are genuine people out there who will be happy to share with you however quite a few of them have been messed around by other wannanbees previously and so are a little more choosy now on who they respond to.
So if a Domme will only do it for money with a particular sub does that make her bad? Or him desperate?
And what constitutes payment? Direct money transfer? Tribute? Gifts? Flowers? Perfume? Where do you draw the line?
I think you're missing the point; if both parties, going in, are fully aware that this is purely a financial transaction, fine. But using subterfuge just to extract money from some horny guy's wallet is not cricket. Likewise, it's one thing to buy someone flowers; it's another thing altogether to be ordered to hit their Amazon wish list before emailing again. Most people don't seem to have a problem understanding where the line is. Anyone who doesn't is probably going to make the same mistake over and over again until they either run out of money or figure it out.
it reminds me of a roommate i caught "chatting" with a "girl" on yahoo IM back in the day. The robogirl kept asking him questions, he kept answering, and then turned around and told me he was chatting with a hot girl (he knew because "she" had sent him a picture). When the bot directed him to a porn site, he exed out her window. "Why did you ditch her?" i asked. "That's so rude!" ( ) He replied, "I got what I wanted--I don't need her anymore."
In fairness to some of the "desperate subs", they maybe be complete beginners and that's what they see at first and send the "i'll do anything for you Mistress" messages because they assume or think that's what is what is required to impress/meet/serve a Mistress. Hopefully they learn and find out about things more and progress and become more "real" when approaching a lady online . Behind the title is a real person with real feelings and emotions and a real life.
desperation = should never be an excuse to throw common sense out of the window. i know of, and have known people in the past, where you just want to slap them around the room to wake them up as to what is/was going on. you look in their eyes and see that the captain was not on the bridge(and had left long ago) reality = there is no such thing as a free lunch, and if you want your pecadillo's fulfilled, you need a a pro dom or domme. yes it costs, but rarely does someone do something for the love of it. find a pro, if they tick your boxes, go back to them, etiquette = i was, many years ago, a regular customer to 2 working ladies, each in a different field. not at the same time. i was always polite and pleasant to the lady and her maid. as such, i built up a certain rapport with them, like return your car to a certain garage because you got a good service. although i was never under any illusions about the 'setup', i was paying for a service to a working lady, end of. but it always made for a calm, more relaxed atmosphere and was a nicer experience than the nervous 1st time with each. things move on, money wasnt as plentiful for a while, then found to my horror that they no longer were at those premises, the 1st lady, she was an independant with her own premises, one day, she no longer appeared in the local paper, the 2nd lady, she worked at a 'house', she just stopped going there, and so did i. i was a paying customer to a working lady, but i still look back at both ladys, and the experiences, with a fondness and affection nonetheless.
ps, there is nothing wrong with going to a pro dom/domme providing they operate with a certain ethic, unlike many of the scammers who lurk here and at other sites.
On the plus side, I find that in a sea of desperate bs, it is very easy to stand out if one is honest and articulate. The good ones find each other pretty quickly with a little effort!