By searching for women with a dominant inclination on relevant forums or by engaging in relationships with regular women and gradually revealing your inner desires to her？
I was married for about 5 years before I revealed my submissive desires to her. Prior to my big reveal our marriage was a very traditional 50/50 marriage and she did not have an overly dominant personality. When I revealed my desires, she was open to the idea and the transformation began. It was a slow process - took many years for her get comfortable being dominant but the wait was well worth it!
Ours developed naturally I guess. We met on tinder, had a few dates and realised we were both quite kinky, but at first I was the dom and she the sub. I didn't even know I was submissive but it's funny what love can do. Then we discovered chastity and she would decide when to release me but then I was still the top. 4 years later and we're married, I'm in permanent chastity, her full time 24/7 submissive and currently not allowed any form of orgasm untill I have given her 100 orgasms. Never in a million years did I think we'd end up like this and I'm so happy and can't wait to see where this road takes us.
Developed. She was more "vanilla" (didn't even own a vibrator...) when we met. We get her a toy and she quickly learned my penis wasn't needed for sex anymore. It took a while to build up with the chastity, but as has been said, she know loves it and I'm kept locked full time, while pleasing her with the same vibrator.
We started vanilla but my wife always showed her strength and dominance. Eventually I ended up confessing my submissive desires and explained how it lines up. From there we began our FLR and it continues to grow stronger in time
We met as vanilla, very quickly Madam told me of some of her kinks, and then about her being Dom with men online. I confessed to her I had the same and more links and that I was into bdsm to. And it went in from there.
We discussed on the third date (as adult teenagers), what a wonderful time we could have exploring all that sex had to offer and that bondage could be a lot of fun (I already had a 3rd degree blackbelt in Self-bondage). We explored all the very cool leather shops in LA and dove into BDSM as switches. Years later she declared herself as no longer a switch.
By being happily married for a very long time and asking if she wanted to watch some porn one night. She clicked on a chastity video and...off to the races. We are now much more happily married lol.
really excelerated after our two kids, my wife said she had no need for my penis and preferred my tongue and presented me with a cage. it completed things as she was already in charge of finances etc. She now says the thought of me caged is more sexy than when i wasn’t and we have a brilliant close sexy marriage x
We are not FLR but more of our naughty time has been focused on her being dominant and we are planning on doing several days of intense play.
Talking. Being honest. I was divorced and was coming out of a D/s, caged marriage. The more we did things the better I felt about being submissive. Meeting my now wife, after several months I told her about how I feel. That I was submissive. We talked for hours. I wanted to be honest with her and if it freaked her out then, I would not want to waste her time as I needed what I needed. Took a long time being honest about myself to my ex. Like others have said, I was thankful she embraced it, slow at first to what we have now. She was vanilla. The next time we saw each other, she wanted to see my cage on to see what it looked like. When she saw it, she asked if I could masturbate with it on? I said no way. That's when she got a big smile Honesty will get you what you want and need. Pick a lane LOL
Ours happened organically. We have been together 44 years. In our life, she was always dominant in the bedroom with me and we had our likes and dislikes. Outside of the bedroom, she was usually in charge of things, but we were pretty traditional. I went to work, earned a living, raised kids, got them through college and stayed together while our son was deployed as a Marine in Afghanistan. My wife started a business later in life and I retired early. I helped her run it. About a year into retirement we had a blow out about the business and I lost my utter mind. Jackass is a good word to describe me. I had been reading about an FLR for a few months and it suddenly occurred to me this was what we had been most of our marriage but I questioned her authority too much and too many times. I sat down with her a week after my blowout. She thought I was going to ask for divorce. I actually told her I was surrending to her. In the meantime I was diagnosed with Prostate Cancer, had it removed and am recovering. What that did is fuel our desires differently. We were always incredibly passionate with one another. But because I struggle with erections, we discovered toys and strapons as she likes PIV. I discovered how intense being chaste for her is, how I like nothing better than serving her. We have been at this now for about 5 years and while we are pretty tame compared to some others, I feel like I did when we were just dating. I don't take her for granted and I now obey her and do anything she says. She has assumed what has always been her strength in our relationship, being the dominant partner.
Very early on I told Miss Amanda that I had always wanted to submit to a woman. Although this was a totally new concept to her, she said she would research it and see if it would be something she wanted. The answer came back quite quickly that yes, she very much liked the idea of that. Our first step was buying a chastity device, and it all grew and evolved from there.
Started after taking a couples sex questionnaire to help add/reignite our sex life. Started with trying new positions and toys and my then vanilla wife started to enjoy it more and noticed she got more confident and take a little more lead. Once I told her I did masterbate when she was at work bought a charstity cage and the FDL really took off from there.
We’ve always been equal partners, and if we would hit an impasse, I would typically agree to go with her judgment. At some point I started letting her make the decisions on most everything. Locking me up was my idea, but one I knew she would likely embrace. Chastity has brought out her dominance, and allowed my submissive side to flourish. We both enjoy where we are headed.
For us it started a few years back but the roles were opposite. We knew we were interested in dom/sub relationship but it wasn’t until about 2 years ago we decided it was backwards and she was a true dom. Now here we are.