As my KH and I migrate toward a more controlling FLR, taking control of the finances seem to me a natural, albeit challenging, step along the path. Thus far, our progression from vanilla to chastity to what May come next has always been instigated by me, with my wife trying things out to see how they fit, and keeping things she likes, and ignoring things that she feels don’t quite fit in her evolving role as my queen and mistress. So , my question is for those of you who have your finances managed by another as part of an FLR. I’m interested in learning how you started down this particular path, and look for any tips or advice you care to share.
I've nothing useful to add on this topic but I know it has been discussed here a few times before, so it may be worth searching through the archive. Good luck
My Queen has been taking care of finances for 49 plus years. Nothing to do with FLR, just me working and her staying at home most of that time. The finances just evolved into part of the house work.
We have a joint account, but it’s my responsibility to ensure everything is sorted and the bills are all paid and sorted, but I need permission before I can spend money on just my self.
I really believe and think that financial control in addition with chastity create strong FLR. Money = power. Without money you can't feel free and do what you want. When the keyholder (wife) is control all the finances you have to look for her approval in all things. If you piss her off, a few weeks (months) without money for sure will learn your, place at home. Extreme level is where you have nothing, and everything is on her (assets, car) when your paycheck is going to her bank account to which you don't have any access. It is level of no turning point. This point of level with chastity lifestyle gives her power which sometimes push you to feel "fucked". As they say: " be careful what you wish for"
This is one of our agreed boundaries. Her money is hers and mine is mine. We don't have even have a shared bank account. Granted I pay more then my share but it's because I'm able to and like to.
My wife has handled the finances for years. Sunce we've gone into an flr, she has begun controlling all our finances. She took my credit cards and gave me a new one with just her name on it. Limited me to $50 cash in my pocket. I'm required to ask before I can spend any money, if I want to buy a coffee while on the road, I text her. She almost never says no. It's a mind thing. It keeps me in a submissive state of mind.
my wife controlled our money for all of our marriage without success , i may never recover but that may have been the plan all along
I pay my KH 'chastity tax' each month. Each anniversary it goes up. Eventually, she intends to take 100% financial control. One step at a time.
Generally speaking I’ve always been in charge of the finances. I think giving her total control and having her delegate certain decisions, or at least soliciting recommendations in financial decisions would likely work well. As for any of my spending, I’m hoping she takes 100% control. And for her benefit, it’ll surely save a few $ she can spend on herself. I’m with you, it’s the mind thing, being under her control, that’s so potent.
this has always seemed a bridge too far. But after divorce i can say, may as well give it to her now, she'll get it anyway.
I've been married to my KH for 43 years. She has handled the finances day to day for almost the entire time, although anything big was a joint decision. Over time, I've been less involved, and she now handles it all. I guess I could still have input, but it works better for us if she handles it. I have my own credit card(s), but would never spend more than $100 or so without letting her know. I guess I'm a financial submissive, LOL!
I handle the finances because I am good with finances and she does not have any interest in paying the bills. However she has full oversight over the finances. I must get her approval on expenditures that are not "routine". Our money is in joint accounts but she has a separate account in which I transfer a set amount of money into each week. For what it is worth, I believe extreme financial control is foolish. If you are not married, it is just stupid. If you are married, the risk is that if god forbid something happened to your wife, it would be quite a burden to get access to finances and assets. Some fantasies are best left as fantasies.