Men using strap ons on female partners

I wanted my wife to love me using a strap on on her. I wanted her to be a size queen, but she didn't like it.

Then recently, I found this on amazon for $18 ... and she likes it!!! (LIVE4COOL Penis Extender)



Just a little bit bigger than me and still soft on top of whatever I can pull off. Remote control vibratos. I spray myself with lidocaine before and can make it through. I did have one accident early on, but this has been a ton of fun.

 

Do you mind sharing what HARNESS you use? i assume you are happy with the harness, and do you use the harness over top of your chastity device?

 

Which kind of material is this made of?

 

We do this since three months now. She enjoys it very much and makes no thoughts on letting me have PiV someday again.

But mostly I am allowed to lick her and being used as her chair.

 

We do this occasionally, but my Wife really doesn’t care for dildos, we have tried many including a triple density one from the Pleasure Tailor, I’ll warm it in a hot wash cloth wrapped inside a heating pad prior to using it. She will get her orgasm using it, but most of the time if she wants piv, she unlocks my cage.
Depending on how long I’ve been denied a ruin, I will have to use a little 5% lidocaine (Numb Master) around the glans so I can perform easier for her.

It is definitely a fun mind fuck when using a fake cock and watching it enter her, and to be able to fuck and not feel anything except straining in your cage!

 

It makes me almost cum in my cage.

 

Had my very first experience yesterday wearing our new strap on friend (who we have now named Leroy).
It was an incredible experience for both of us. It felt so great to see my wife (KH) finally getting some satisfaction from PIV.
When she uttered the words 'I really love big black cock ' it made me leak.
Picture of Leroy is in her gallery.
Leroy's big brother Raymond is very jealous, but hopefully he will get his turn in due course.

 

I bought a real feel dildo and good strap, and used it on the wife she was not a fan, which I am happy and sad at the same time.
So she won't be replacing me with the strap on.

 

Soft rubber.

I was disappointed to find that my wife was not turned on by a stiff cock (yes I experimented with a few) ... this has been pretty seamless. I've used it a handful of times, but it has always been after I've gone down on her and used a couple of toys on her. I need to see if she'd be up for moving this up in the line up ... she definitely enjoys it but is kind of spent by then. I guess at the same time it may pair nicely because it's more slow sex than fast sex based on her, but I'm right on the edge holding on there at times.

 

Yes, sure I can!

I use Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock harness, I think this is the one:
https://www.amazon.com/Doc-Johnson-Vac-U-Lock-Platinum-Rings/dp/B00DHLRM9G
it has a small plug which goes inside Realcock2. Vac-U-Lock is the system RC use. Harness itself is good in my opinion, easy to put on and does not chafe. I use it over my chastity device. Device can easily hang between the two thigh straps. Sometimes I use underwear under the harness, so that locked penis doesn’t move that much or press against harness in some positions, which could almost give me some pleasure

 

My wife likes the idea of the strap on bit finds PIV uncomfortable with a strap on and told me if I can find a smaller dildo she would prefer PIA. On her back with the rabbit, Doxy wand and me around the back. Oh My God its Christmas for sure

 

My wife has never liked dildos. In fact, her least favourite sexual activities include anything with penetration (with the exception of sex). She’s just not a fan. Toys, dildos, fingers; not for her.

So it’s been a strange turn of events that she has really started to accept and enjoy ‘foxing’ as a regular addition to our chastity life.

I’d say there are numerous factors to this. The greatest of all is that regular PIV (hate that term) is off the table for now. So we tried strapon sex as a means to replicate the close levels of intimacy you get from sex.

A smaller dildo, one more comparable to my size, was a better fit for her. We found one with movable skin which felt more natural. We’re not in the vixskin realms just yet, but it has a realistic feel and movement. We use a condom. That’s important as it genuinely feels more like how we would typically have sex.

The most important aspect of all in this appears to be warming the dildo. When it’s cold, it just doesn’t feel right for her.

We coupled all of this with realistic sexual motions and positions, I don’t try and fuck her like a porn star just because I won’t cum… and she’s far more content that way. She liked it, but what really shifted her thought process was how much I got from the experience. When it became so overwhelmingly erotic that I ejaculated in my cage, that’s when she really started to enjoy it!

That’s the aspect of typical sex she likes the most: mutual pleasure. There are very little means to achieve that (so visibly) in a chaste lifestyle.

Whether it will become a mainstay in our relationship, or just a stop gap until we can try the regular thing again remains to be seen. For now, I’m really glad she gave it a go and opened herself up to it and the possibility that she could actually throw away her key… she’d still be satisfied.

 

My wife prefers my tongue over a strapon dildo by about a ration of 50 to 1. However, when she does like dildo play, we have found some things for it to be pleasurable and at the same time exhausting. We place the dildo in a heating pad for about and hour solid so the core temperature is about 100 degrees, the same temp as a real cock. I am normally already wearing the harness so the transition is a quick steady process to keep things on track.

Lube helps and is also warmed in the same heating pad and positions are the most important. She is against missionary, she prefers any position where sh can control to depth and the speed of penetration. We do some doggy style, but her favorite is me tied spread eagle on the bed and she can mount me. She will grind, pound herself while impaled, and stop and start as often as she wants. Once satisfied, she will then just lay on top of me while the dildo is still inserted. Once she regains her composure it flops out and clean up time.

 

We've experimented with this. Two years ago, I would have run a mile but now it's part of the mix. We started out trying it when he wasn't due for release and yet I wanted the feeling of being filled, combined with the intimacy of making love. The first few times were a lot of fun because of the 'mindfuck dimension' but not really very satisfying for me. But after we practiced and he got the angle right and especially, slowed right down, and then slowed down even more, the whole experience got a lot better. The thing that made it really work for us though was a change in mindset from me. When I made a real effort to imagine that it was the real thing, and treat it as if it was the real thing - even to the point of putting it in my mouth and looking him in the eye as I did so, that started to become much more exciting. Warming it in hot water first (that's his job, not mine!) was another valuable lesson. Oh and dim candlelight!
Sal

 

From my perspective and by the noises Mistress made and had to finally tell me to stop because she couldn’t handle anymore. I would say for my first time for days ago that I must have done an excellent job and could tell she really enjoyed it. I most definitely would say that it will continue this way.