Noob looking for hints, advice, camaraderie

So, 2 weeks locked. 1 week since she took the keys. Taking it low and slow and at her pace. She’s been reading ‘Chastity for Vanilla Wives’ by Melissa Morrisette, which has been very helpful so far.

ladt night, while reading, I asked her for the key so I could ‘adjust’ ad I wanted to swap out rings to help with the nightly ring burn. She said ‘no’. And as I opened my mouth to explain why, she looked at me and said ‘go to bed’.

Why that instantly caused some severe cage strain is something to ponder. But nan, seeing her exert a little control was incredible!

so, steady as she goes, but am enjoying each day.

 

Oh…and I did head straight to bed…

 

Wow. First night locked and just pleasing her. What an incredible rush! It was very, very hard (no pun intended) to think about anything but getting that key as I was desperately craving some PIV sex. We are still moving ahead very slowly. She did have questions and concerns about how she’s enjoyed it when we both cum, and feels a bit selfish about it only being about her. I’ve found I’m treading on thin ice when I ask what she wants me to do. She still wants me to lead in the bedroom, regardless of the situation. That’ll be something I will definitely keep in mind going forward. Outside of the bedroom, she continues to test the waters as to her style of keyholding. She’s getting a kick out of being able to flex her power a bit. I’d me more than delighted to see this side of her personality and behavior continue to grow. It feels like she’s just coming to terms with the power she has. She looks at me and says “this could be very dangerous for you”. And…I strain.


I appreciate the advice and insight y'all are providing. I'm still just "happy to be here" as I didn't really expect to get this far. Advice on how to move at her pace and ensure she gets the most out of this has been very well received. So thank you everyone.

 

Thanks. Another fantastic night last night. And at the end, she said she’s not used to it being ‘just about her’. I tried my best to carefully and concisely let her know I’m getting so much more out of it than I could convey. Before dosing off to sleep, I made sure to give her a simple ‘thank you’ in hopes of conveying my incredible gratitude for the gift she’s given me by taking the keys.

we’ll continue to take it slowly. Every day is a welcome gift and a new adventure.

 

And another fantastic night. We’re in our 50’s and our love life feels like it did in our 20’s. I think she’s slowly coming around to accept bring ‘spoiled’ can be, and should be, the new norm. Two nights in a row ending with her coming back down to earth while I strain against my cage while thinking just how lucky I am. Can’t wait to see what the next day brings.

 

Yep. Locked, frustrated, and straining. And loving it. The anticipation of potential release at some point is an incredible feeling. But for those two nights, it was ‘all about her’ and she fell asleep in my arms as I waited for my body to calm back down.

 

Passed the 2 month mark since last time I masturbated. Which, if I think about it, is likely my longest streak since puberty.

My how things change when your best friend locks up your second-best friend and only allows you to play all three together…

 

Thanks! It’ll be 2 months since she took them in a couple days. It’s been an incredible experience thus far.

 

I’d say about the same. But the big O, when allowed, had been incredible.

 

Another milestone…3 months since I last ‘tossed off’. The record extends for another month.

Also locked for the next 3 weeks to “encourage” losing 7lbs gained in the month leading up to, and including thanksgiving. Some incentive there…

 

I was completely surprised that she was open to it. It’s been a slow go of it as we progress down the path. Key was (no pun intended) getting her to take the key. Not to say it’s all ‘gravy’ from there, but that first step is the major accomplishment in our journey.

like I said earlier, I broached the subject over a few margaritas. And was probably totally red in the face with embarrassment at the time. But…I wasn’t totally rebuffed, so I brought it up again about a week later. And maybe a couple weeks of locking and leaving the key available, I found it gone (9/12/23…a date I’ll always remember!).

 

Another observation…erections are strong and hard…but definitely smaller. I believe I read on here somewhere that this is possible over your first month or so. Well, I can confirm it’s true. Smaller…guessing due to less elasticity due to not being able to have one for so long.