Navigating a chastity relationship through menopause

Yes. Chastity really worked for us during the change. It helped me deal with the frustration of her decreased libido, knowing that I was going to be locked and denied. Lots of hugs and cuddling, intimacy increased even though sex was less, not so bad.

Now we’re out the other side, our sex life has returned to normal.

 

That's so good to hear. We've wondered about that and theorized that that's what it would have taken to survive menopause. Loss of libido must be tough for a woman with a responsive desire.

Even if my wife still teased me and gave me an occasional orgasm, i would really miss her orgasms. It would be a hollow relationship without her pleasure.

 

Our chastity journey has evolved over the years
It's a game to spice up
I gave her complete control
I only let you out now and then
To cum, you are to be bound cage off
To cum, bound, but in the cage
To cum.....you will be lucky to do that

Now, you will be bound, teased......maybe, but always locked

Always locked, and you cum but once a year

If I bind you, I will just leave you, ignored

Now....just locked......and there is no release in sight
Still trying at times to process this, I may well
NEVER CUM again

And her view, expressed to me today.
I never thought being mean like this would be so
Enjoyable for me....where is the whip!?

She always hated semen, it's smell ect
Problem solved

Bcfwywf

 

We started chastity after menopause as Shaz didn’t like sex so often as before.
It’s work well for us and stopped me pestering her for sex.
My lock ups are getting longer and we are both happier than before

 

the woman i see lost her sexual desires after the change....no changes in sight. She says my orgasms don't benefit her so why should she let me cum? Hard to argue with but..........

 

My wife got hormone therapy and now she is as horny as I am

 

Good for her! This prompted me to do some research and I came across this article. What form of therapy is it? Oral, injections, embedded under the skin? Any negative side effects? It sounds like a lot of women could benefit from this.

My wife developed breast cancer from the supplements she was given to treat her peri-menopausal symptoms. It sounds like a testosterone supplement might have been a better approach.

 

Testosterone in a sub dermal pellet. I do TRT myself, but mine is a shit once weekly

 

How old is she if you don't mind me asking? Is she getting it to treat menopausal symptoms? Did she have a strong libido when she was younger?

 

Great topic! My wife is peri-m right now and her libido has dropped even more. I haven't revealed to her yet that I want to wear this device but thinking about it. I'm worried that if I do, she locks and forgets me. She already forgets I still have a libido. A few months ago we were visiting family and I didn't have a chance to masturbate for a few days. I was insanely horney and had to M several times the day we got home for that desire to go away. She thinks that if she doesn't have sex then she shouldn't, nor do anything special just for me, nor me to touch myself. I know that's a dream for some guys but I don't think it's for me. I guess we could try it and see how it goes and I could call it off if I'm not liking it. I've read stories about how some guys locked until their wife says so start horney but then settle down after a few weeks. Maybe that's what I need too.

My wife isn't into hormone supplements and certainly wouldn't do it for libido. She just thinks that's the way she is and I should suck it up. I'm still trying to navigate how chastity would be beneficial to me if she were to continue to keep me locked and no gratification at all. I'm not looking forward to a few years when she goes full menopausal and her libido would probably drop to zero (it's already near zero now).

 

The one piece of advice that comes up here every time is: Communication is key.

Start where you're at. "Honey, I love you, and want to spend the rest of my life with you, but I've been struggling with this change in our lives, and this isn't a struggle I can get through alone. I don't know where this path is leading, but I really want to figure it step by step together with you."

 

my wife getting hormone therapy currently and it’s helped her disposition and increased her drive back to her normal level.

 

My Partner take HRT as well as a cream called androfeme which is a low dose Testosterone cream prescribed for women.

HRT was mainly for hot and cold flushes and the mood swings, the androfeme cream was for energy levels as well as sex drive.

Fortunately my partner is open to anything that can enhance quality of her life.

HRT certainly helps the menopause symptoms, but didn't help the sex drive much. We are about to start trying to ween her off the HRT going to half dose because she has been on HRT for some years, even though the increased cancer incidence has been largely debunked now.

It took a long time (6-12 months) but the Androfeme cream definitely helped her libido as well as her energy levels, ie she enjoys sex again when nothing else in our life is fucking things up.

She says her libido is there but not as strong as it was when she was younger...which is not surprising given I am 58 this year and she is 56. Its not cheap tho the cream costs about AUD $100/month but its worth every cent, but it wont transform her into a nympho and it doesn't fix day to day life from interfering, but it certainly helps with the ability to cope with such things.

 

50, yes, and no

 

Maybe we should all wish that for our wives / partners!!! If only my wife had that 15 years ago!

Did her doc put a time limit on how long she can receive this form of therapy? Does she have any negative side effects like unwanted hair growth, etc?

 

I'm 62, my Wife (KH) is tens years older. She went through menopause when she was in her early 50s. So we stop having PIV sex when I was in my early 40s. My Wife would still give me oral sex or hand jobs. And got into watching me Masturbate in front of her. I would also masturbate without her knowing I was. That's the way our sex life was until five years ago when we discovered Male Chastity. It has brought us closer together, we have far more "sex talks" now then we ever had. We now know our likes and dislikes. In the last 5 years, my Wife has probably had more orgasms then she did before MC. I always had a orgasm, not that many for my Wife. Now she is making up for lost time. It's all about her now, and what she wants. I love watching her masturbate or when she allows it giving her pleasure orally.

 

That is awesome!

 

Similar here, although we're younger. My wife is older than I, and probably getting close to menopause (she has experienced some of the early symptoms).

I guess this topic is a lot less scary to me now, because I'm in chastity and not worried about wanting release any more.

I do want release, of course. I also want to not be released. But either way it is up to her, and I no longer worry at all about it. She won. Game over. And I couldn't be happier.

 

Yes, and I think you and your wife are poised to be able to handle menopause very effectively. It will likely affect your intimacy some, but it shouldn't totally destroy it unless she experiences some extreme symptoms. I hope to hear of success stories along these lines.

 

I recently posted a similar post. https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?threads/menopause-loss-of-sex-drive-and-bdsm.52456/. Menopause can be a challenge and my hat is off to anyone who figures out a way to stay intimate and sexual when one partner completely loses their sex drive.

 

Look into it, it can be something as simple as their diet (I just forget now if it was salt or something simple like that), women did not got through 20 years of menopause a hundred years , it was over in like 5 minutes.

 

I am on the “other side” of menopause and this lifestyle is such a benefit for us. I never had the highest sex drive, but I definitely love sex with my husband… now, I still get great orgasms when I want them and he gets to serve me and sometimes I let him have an orgasm if I feel like it. I take an over the counter medicine for my symptoms and that helps a lot. Also, I believe that having an amazing sub who takes the pressure off of my day to day helps me relax and I can spend time giving him some attention as well.

 

Good for you! That's awesome!

What medication is that?