Deep breath. And... relax. Here goes

Glad that it went so well and that you had such a nice time. But with you in charge I expected nothing less

 

Fantastic! Hopefully he'll notice that the new growth takes longer to cone in and is not as irritating under his cage for awhile.

 

P.A. Next

 

@longtallsally

Wow, since I discovered your journal last week - as I'm fairly new to this site - it's been hard to tear myself away from reading this at any spare moment. In fact my KH was quite angry with me last night for continually recounting updates to the story over the last few days

Thank-you for documenting this, it was quite a roller-coaster of a read.

There are lots of things I'd maybe want to say - maybe I'll post another comment sometime soon, but for now I just wanted to say;

As someone who's seriously into pegging - and discovered chastity via this route - I really enjoyed the build up to you gently taking his 'receiving' virginity, and the way you described the moment when it finally happened.


I'm not sure if it would be helpful, but sometimes when I get pegged, I like to ask my KH to 'make love to me' because that's what I want - I want to 'receive' her love fully and completely, mind and body. To be owned and taken by her because I am her's and she loves me.

I thought maybe you and Pete might want to explore that emotional aspect to the 'giving' and 'receiving' experience - maybe less about dominance and more about caring and pleasuring.

[Not saying you don't do both already - just maybe the dynamic is different]

Thanks again for sharing your story.

LHB

PS: I love to get properly f***ed by her also - just the dynamic between us is different between the two.

 

Yes, I totally agree with you. Also a total pegging fan. Really can't get enough of it. Sometimes she feels like a long slow love making session of pegging and other times she takes me so hard we are both sweating and breathless. Either way, I love it

 

Good advice about looking into his eyes, exuding confidence and resolve. I absolutely adore the female body, every aspect of it. I never tire of looking at cleavage, titty bounce, or puppy dog noses." But in the end, by far the sexiest part of a woman is her eyes.

 

nice touch with the surprise waxing. That will definitely put him in sub space

 

@longtallsally

Thanks for liking to my 1st comment to your story.

As suggested in my original comment, I did have two other comments - which I'll put in separate posts.

Firstly, regarding the recent discussions & plans to increase the 'receiving' with My Pete - and particularly the paragraph below - which if I'm completely honest, somehow doesn't sit quite right with me.

Insertion of any anal toy in the manner above - all in and then all out (if I understand you correctly) is going to very much depend on the toy being used.

1) If it has a larger 'head' than ''body' - as many of my toys do (inc. the Vixskin), then you are going to be perhaps repeatedly stressing parts of his ass in a way that is much more likely to cause damage vs. leaving the toy in and pulling it back vs. taking it out.

2) All anal activities required both a willing body and a willing mind. As much as I love anal play - I am not sure I would want or be physically/mentally able to do every day - and very likely not multiple times a day.

3) All pegging/receiving anal activities require prep. time (evacuation, cleaning, pre-lube, relaxation, stretching, etc. - possibly even also carefully managing food eaten before and after) ) - as above, I'm pretty sure I don't have the time in my schedule for this on a daily (or twice daily!) basis.

I'm not sure if this was what you were thinking or planning - and I am sure you'll be very sensitive to his concerns especially if it's at all painful for him.

But reading the paragraph above again (multiple times) I'm still back to overall feeling this approach just doesn't feel quite right - fully accept I'm pretty vanilla and don't do submission/FLR, just like being locked and pegged.

From a purely personal perspective, I think you should share the 'consequences' plan - at least regarding 'receiving' - and check all is OK for the whole plan vs. each step in the plan.

Again, I'm not a full-on sub and TBH more frequent pegging for me would be very gratefully received - but I'd feel a bit odd my KH having a plan for my body that I don't know about. Just me maybe.

EDIT

In fact it could actually be pretty hot - "I'm going to train you so well and you'll enjoy it so much, by the end you'll be begging for Daddy Bear!"

 

@longtallsally

My second comment/question - has My Pete actually seen and read this message board?

I know you said he knows about it, but don't remember you saying if he'd actually read it.

I'm thinking that if not - might be something you think carefully on how you approach this, as otherwise should he find it independently, could perhaps be a very upsetting experience - for both of you.

 

Buy a few of Mistress Scarletts' booklets., or her manual. I can only cringe in fear what she would do if her husband had done such a thing.

 

A piece of advice my former boss gave me that served me well . When he promoted me to director, he said "if you are strict and resolute with your employees from the outset, you can always back off. If you try to be their friend or go easy on them when they don't perform, you can never ramp it up. They will not take you seriously, and you will be a laughing stock. " He was so right. I was amazed when I finally did ease up on them how much things didn't change in the way they preformed or treated me. They knew full well I had it in me to revert to "the old me" in the blink of an eye, and no one ever tested me.
I suggest you go full on CFMN, at least for an indefinite period until you are fully satisfied he has competed internalized your new relationship. My Mistress has done it, and it is humbling always being naked in her presence . She still is naked around me sometimes, when she feels like it, but I am never allowed clothes in the house unless we have company . And because we have property, I am usually naked outside too unless doing something that requires clothes, or the risk of being seen is high.
He will protest. Look at the memes that say " I know you don't like it. But I don't care". Smile, and walk away. Here's a nice little nuance you can add when he whines. "if being naked all the time really bothers you, you have my permission to wear a pair of my knickers whenever you want. " A two fer. Naked or the beginning of feminization. His choice.
I love it when a plan comes together.

 

Sal,
Thought of another one, this time where "the punishment fits the crime". My wife has never been a fan of facials. I may have talked her into it once in our 50 years together, but if I did, I don't recall, so I probably didn't. She would be mortally pissed if I did it to her ever, let alone when she is MIstress and I am her caged sub. So, bottom line is, he treated you as a receptacle. Do the same. At least once, and if it makes you thing Yuck, suck it up , and do it anyway, because chances are he will think "bigger Yuck". Some men like this, most do not.
Get into the shower with him. Be business like, not all friendly and sweet. Immediately tell him to kneel. Then pull his head to your crotch and piss on his face. Whether or not you tell him to open his mouth first is up to you. Make Sure you have had plenty to drink first, so that you really have to go, and stage fright is not a potential problem, Also, much longer flow. When you finished, tell him something along the lines of " when you held me down and jacked off on my face and hair, you treated me like I was your toilet. We'll see how you like being my toilet, maybe permanently. "
Regardless of whether or not you think you will ever do that again, tell him you have not decided if this is going to be a regular. thing or not.

 

That’s a coincidence. We’ve been in Scotland too for the last few days (heading to Yorkshire today to see my mum). Enjoy your hols and will look forward to reading more of your exploits later.

 

I always find it fascinating how people travel from country to country on your side of the pond. Like it's Tuesday, let's head to Spain. But then I remember it's basically like us heading from one state to another.

 

@longtallsally Enjoy your holiday together and the celebration of a successful conclusion to “consequences” month. Finding the sweet spot of TFD and begging for relief coupled with the meekness of submission is an art you are well on your way to mastering.

Of course if he starts to revert to his old ways, a simple reminder that Locktober is less than two months away should work wonders.

 

@longtallsally Always look forward to your journal updates on this wonderful journey you and Pete are taking. And can't wait to hear how "Consequences" month was concluded up in Scotland.
Interested to know if the cane, and or your undies for Pete were included in the luggage?

 

Great job and you did it and all is fine

 

This is quite common. If he really didn't feel anything it's more likely pre-cum (prostatic fluid) -- pretty much all penis owners "leak" when they get excited, some of us a lot (enough to make a wet spot. It's not an orgasm -- it's the body getting ready for an orgasm. I usually don't feel leakage happening until I feel the wet slime sitting on my balls or thighs. The fluid is clear, not milky white (and tastes a bit sweet, or at least not unpleasant).

Could also be he had a "ruined" orgasm. Then the fluid will have be milky white, and greater volume. Some report that they feel little or nothing during a ruin, but I think most experience some noticeable sensation, just not nearly as much as with a full orgasm.

 

Thanks for the update - I've really got in to reading your journey together in this.

There is part of me that reacted against this more than I thought I would and I'm just working it through in my head. Chastity is a lot about control, and I'm fine with that. Great with it, in fact. We don't go in for a FLR 24/7 - it just wouldn't be us. But we definitely do in the bedroom the majority of the time, and outside it in some ways as well.

But there's part of me which is torn with the slightly manipulative aspect? Or maybe it's the move into controlling conversation and relationships. That could certainly be all on my side, but I realised it's a bit of a line. Probably my self protecting issues and not yours and each to their own, so I guess thanks for making me think about hard limits I didn't know I had.

 

@longtallsally Thank you for the well-written journal entry about the end of consequences month. It truly underscores the power of the male chastity lifestyle and how when used in a firm but loving manner can refocus a couple’s interactions.

You did well booking monthly waxing sessions. After a few sessions he will become more comfortable with it just as he has become more comfortable with other forms of his sexuality.

His willingness to now talk with Paul about chastity is huge. I’m not sure how he will approach the topic and doubt Paul will go home to Laura and ask her to place him in chastity. But the seed is planted. Hopefully in the not too distant future all four of you can discuss it openly.