When do you consider chastity becoming “real”

This question comes up all the time and there is only one true answer- It becomes real when it feels real to you. Everyone is different and each dynamic is different so there are no truths, no matter what the religious zealots might tell you. I guess it all begins when you first forgo or are denied an orgasm you would have had. Where you go from there and what you get out of it will determine how real you feel it is...

 

@Lemonzes7 It becomes “real” when you want a release and your keyholder decides against allowing you the release you crave. That’s usually the moment when you fully begin to grasp what is meant when someone says “be careful what you wish for” as it relates to male chastity. So yes, your fiancée took the first step in making it real for you by establishing it’s her penis to play with and deny as she sees fit. Welcome to the club. How you react could easily determine your next release.

 

It sounds like she is definitely finding her way.

Take it easy, don't rush or force it. I'm sure it will be a lot of fun for you both

 

It’s real when your partner says let’s have sex and you know the cage stays on as that’s just normal…

 

When do you consider chastity becoming “real”

"Right after you hear the lock click."

 

When she told me it was.

 

Like some on this thread, it became real when she wanted me locked longer than I did. And she's pushing it further than I ever thought would be the norm. It's when you're yielding control and your KH takes it and runs with it.

 

When you ask to come out and she says no.

 

I agree, but only if you really want to be let out, not if part of you is hoping for a "no".

 

Maybe it should be

"When you are begging to come out and she says no"

 

Yea something like what you all said. I think since men initiate this 95% of the time it becomes "real" when she takes over and it's all driven by her now. If you're still sending your wife links, topping from the bottom, and driving the whole thing then it isn't real.

 

Ohhhh not this again

 

The day she locked my cage and she kept the keys

 

Perhaps, from her point of view, when you are begging and she is sure you really want out and she has become confident, dominant and cruel enough to still say "no".

From your point of view, when you suspect that she has become like that and it's a bit scary or pleasing, or both.

I'm not there yet, but I can't rule it out.

 

When she say, tomorrow we go for your PA piercing...

 

I think about this a lot, and also sure that She doesn't think about it at all.

- We've agreed I don't bring it up in conversation (but if She wants to ask / discuss, then we do)
- I don't get to ask / hint / cajole / manipulate / guilt / remind etc to get out because She is in control as agreed

So on that basis, and if the answer is always "Yes Mistress", then I'm left wondering if she's leaving it long enough for me to reach breaking point, which by definition I of course can't admit to or bring up. Hmmm, I think it's become real

 

Begging doesn’t necessarily mean you really want out, either. I think what you’re looking for is “Real chastity begins when [you/he] really wants it to end,” or “Chastity becomes real when she has actual control, and exercises it."

 

After this morning - we had 2 sessions - both with me in the cage using my tongue and fingers on her….. after she came seriously hard for the 3rd orgasm of the morning…. I let her chill for a while then asked the question…
“Any chance for me this morning??”
She felt my balls and simply said “No chance, your balls are still too small because of all the wanking you’ve been doing recently… 70 days in the cage - THAT is what I said…”
“Ok” I replied meekly…..
It’s real !!

 

It became real for me when she stopped using my imaginary cage… you know the one that was just there. The one that just slips on without any concern. The one she uses when her blowjobs are so bad that she can orgasm whilst performing them without making me cum.
It’s just lucky that she gives such bad oral you remained flaccid ready to be locked up.
I thanked my wife when she bought a real one, but I’ll never forget my first bullshit cage.

 

Bad blow jobs are bad indeed. In my experience most women are pretty bad to bad at giving blow jobs. But once I dated the blow job queen of Germany. She could suck me dry from flaccid in 2 minutes flat. Amazing blow jobs. I have never had anything else even remotely compare to that. My wife is "okay" at blow jobs in that she will always make me cum eventually but man....let's just say I'm glad I met that woman in Germany because she was amazing at blow jobs. In terms of what she did special compared to most women: she could deep throat and take me all into her mouth/throat and she maintained a good vaccum throughout.

 

There is such a queen in every German village

 

After putting my chastity devices on and off for years, it STILL takes me about ten minutes to CAREFULLY put the thing on without pinching myself and to line up my pee hole.

I can’t (personally) imagine someone else doing it.

 

True - I am not sure I would want anyone else putting it on for me!!! Pinching is just THE worst!!

 

Yeah! Mine is a bit of a challenge also, particularly in preventing pinching. An extra set of hands would be really helpful. Hmmmm.... I just might ask my wife to help me next time. That might be fun but make it hard in another way!