Hey All; I wanted to post a thread about the impacts of chastity on males in a subsequent relationship. I find myself back in a relationship after divorce and it's great to be with a loving woman again but I wanted to share that, after a long locktober being locked up by a former girlfriend, I find it difficult to be aroused by my new girlfriend. I'm guessing that after the intensity of locktober compared to a regular sexual relationship with a woman, it's difficult to get aroused enough to have an orgasm with her. Which sucks.... Not really sure what to do but I hope this works itself out OR maybe you have some guidance you could share with the group. For now, I'll just abstain from doing it myself and make her my only sexual outlet and see if that fixes things. Any advice? G
Are there any other stresses or pressures in your life right now that might be affecting things? I find, after some time without orgasm or ejaculation, that I hit what the nofap people call "flatlining" where the interest in sex, or sometimes everything in life, plummets. It doesn't last long. I also found that chasing orgasms is wasted effort. My GF and I stopped focusing on orgasms some time ago (more Karezza/Tantra approach) and the result was longer sexy fun times, increasing intmicy, more mutual masturbation, more openess.
Thanks for the thoughtful response. No, no stresses. I just think I was so over-stimulated during Locktober, all else pales in comparison. I was single for about 10 months after 6 years of marriage and the transition was difficult. I'll hope that the 'flat lining' thing doesn't last as you indicated and maybe stop trying so hard would also help. Thanks for taking time. G
I searched for and found a couple of links that might help/reassure you regarding flatlining: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?t...o-beat-it-and-general-insight-into-it.135934/ https://andreian.com/nofap-flatline/ https://pmoflatline.com/nofap-how-to-know-if-youre-in-flatline/ I don't know if you are flatlining or not, I think it's a personal thing that only you know for sure. If I was in your position I think I would focus all of my sexual energies to my new love, and forget about my own sexual satisfaction. Doing that will reduce any performance anxiety you might be feeling. I'd also suggest cutting porn out of your life, including chastity captions. That would also involve not even looking on sites like IG or tumblr at hot scantily clad women.