Getting disconnected from the positive effects of chastity.

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    #1 Miss Amandas boy, Oct 13, 2022
    Miss Amanda and I have been using chastity for around 8 years now, not permanently, but usually for 6 to 10 days, and twice I have done Locktober (which was not easy). After being locked I am usually given a few days unlocked before the device goes back on. It has always been a very important part of our relationship.


    In the last year however, for no specific reason, we more or less stopped using chastity. The other elements of our FLR were still there, domestic discipline, orgasm control, other rituals, but chastity just got left behind apart from some brief lockings. I found that when I thought about it, I was seeing only the negatives, such as discomfort, and not the positive aspects, in particular enhanced sexual desire for my Mistress and the sense of being physically controlled. This may have been connected to anxieties related to work.


    Miss Amanda had made a few references to my lack of enthusiasm for the cage, and when I thought about it, I remembered all of the positive feelings that chastity gives me. On Monday this week, after my shower, I presented my self to Miss A, naked, with the device in place but not locked, and offered her the key. I am pleased to say she agreed.


    I know that I need to be locked, and I am glad to be back in the right place.
     
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    #2 IB-Chaste, Oct 13, 2022
    You should be punished for your forgetfulness and lack of faith in the cage…
     
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    #3 Miss-Amanda, Oct 20, 2022

    I find it extremely disappointing that you allow work stress to control you. It’s my role to control you. The cage is extremely important in a FLR. It’s not up to the boy to choose when to wear it.
     
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    #4 madams-sissysub, Oct 20, 2022
    perfectly put!
     
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    #5 Jay Sub, Oct 20, 2022
    With respect, and Sorry to ask...Why does he have free time?
     
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    #6 Miss Amandas boy, Oct 20, 2022
    Yes Mistress.
     
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    #7 Jessica Alexander, Oct 20, 2022
    Sounds like you need a rule that says that you must relock within 30 minutes without being told or face punishment. It's easier to just remain locked at all times except for when she wants it unlocked.
     
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    #8 Miss-Amanda, Oct 20, 2022
    To allow his cock to get some air. Sometimes for practical reasons.
     
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    #9 Xileh, Oct 20, 2022
    Yes, a true dominant woman. Words to be locked by.
     
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    #10 Xileh, Oct 20, 2022
    Sometimes, life makes us take pause. But, your dominant does not seem pleased. Perhaps a balance can be communicated and permitted? It is important when serving, that you also maintain your mental and physical health. I am certain she will assist you in taking care of her property. After all, she has invested in you.
     
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    #11 Miss-Amanda, Oct 20, 2022
    Very well said.
     
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    #12 Headtrip, Oct 21, 2022
    @Miss Amandas boy , with only the information in your post above, and @Miss-Amanda 's comments, I would say its on you to find a more comfortable cage...
     
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    #13 Miss-Amanda, Oct 21, 2022
    I disagree with this. I only like the holy trainor cages. He used to have a CB which was ok. I choose the cage, not him! It gets uncomfortable mainly due to my interaction with him.
     
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    #14 Headtrip, Oct 21, 2022
    LOL. Okay. Of course I defer to the lady and can only add that I didn't catch that from the OP. Personally, I hate it when my cage causes a pinch or rash, but I love it when my Queen causes me to be uncomfortable in the cage!
     
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    #15 Jay Sub, Oct 21, 2022
    Holy trainer is very comfortable IMHO no reason to remove for me except her will and therefore my pleasure
     
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