Question of the Day I don't do this often, but I feel polls can be fun... and seeing others express their situation can be so helpful to others who need advice/help. My Response There are a couple of close friends and close family members that know about it, but it wouldn't be a normal topic of discussion with them; nor would it be a topic of discussion with the public.
There's one other close friend who knows, and it's mostly because she figured out something was "different" about my wife/I's relationship. Since she initially guessed and we talked about it a couple times 4-ish years ago, she hasn't mentioned it since. I'm not even sure she remembers. See, she was in a poly marriage at that point that was falling apart (but didn't know it at the time) and she was deep into the BDSM world and pretty keyed in at the moment. She was thinking maybe furries, but was obviously a bit off. When she confronted me, I hemmed and hawed a bit embarrassed, but we had a good conversation.
I'm curious! How did the topic come up? My wife doesn't want to tell anyone either. But I think she's become so comfortable with it now and happy with the part it's played in our marriage that she'd be okay sharing it with someone else under the right circumstances. I'm part of a men's virtual support group that meets weekly by Zoom. Everyone in the group had problems in their marriage because of porn and masturbation. They all know I used chastity to break my masturbation habit. For most of the men, their struggle is primarily with porn. We've been meeting for a little over 3 minths now. We also talk individually by phone about once every couple of weeks. I'm the only one in the group that has a healthy sexual relationship right now with their wife/GF (one is single). For most, their habit devastated their marriage relationship because of an integrity abuse disorder. They struggle with building / rebuilding trust in their relationship because they hid their habits for so long. All of the men want what I have in my marriage and it has led to some great conversations. At this point, only one could probably benefit from chastity where he is at in his relationship. If and when they reach a place where chastity could benefit them, I won't hesitate to suggest it to them. I also have connected with a group of like-minded Christian men on a chastity forum that are starting to meet monthly by Zoom to share our journeys together. A few of our wives are starting to join also and get together in a women-only "room". For this group, chastity is helping change our marriages for the better and we want to maintain the upward trajectory. My wife is just starting to participate and her initial reaction was pretty positive although she was very reluctant at the thought initially. I can only believe that given time our comfort level with sharing our marital dynamic and the sexual aspects of it will lead to conversations with local friends and family.
@littleguy3 I have personally told my brother about it, but we are very open about everything. My Wife has told one of her friends, where nothing is considered a taboo topic. I guess what I am trying to say is, it is more likely to discuss with someone you have told other very personal things to. I can't imagine the icebreaker into a world of taboo conversation was "my partner and I practice Male Chastity with a cock cage". LOL
Only a couple of other Girls/Girls like me know about it. Basically I opened my big mouth about Tanya having a Fetlife Profile. I didn't even think about what I had wrote and the pictures I posted. One good friend walked up to me in a bar, grabbed my hips, feeling the belt locked on me. Stated, you naughty girl you!
I feel the people that do know about this are close enough to me that they would never do something like this.
Personally I’m disappointed in the branding… it clearly states question of the day. But I can’t find todays question anywhere?? It feels bi-weekly at best
As far as I know, only my wife and I know. I don't think she has told anyone, mostly because she is not really invested in it quite yet, and I think it would be embarrassing for her if her friends knew. I can imagine a future where she has told a friend or 2 in strict confidence, not wanting me to find out that they know so that I don't get embarrassed. I can also imagine a future of her sharing with a friend or 2 just because she wants to embarrass me. But in the here and now, I think it would embarrass her more than me if anyone she knew found out. I don't have any plans of sharing with the possible exception of a good friend who lives overseas.
I am surprised that there is a overwhelming majority of people who are completely private about this.
Being pussy-whipped is a somewhat taboo subject. That's why the guys aren't talking. And for the most part, there aren't a lot of women here to answer the quiz, so....