My Queen have an on, off again relationship . This has been ten years now. A few years ago I had stayed away from my Queen for a few weeks . I had the cage we had chosen for me, and had been wearing it steadily . I realized I'd be staying away ,but didn't take the cage off . I had a key ,but since it felt good I continued to wear it for over a month . It gave me a sexy feeling ,and I really liked it . My cage is a jailbird , easy to keep myself clean while wearing it, but I need to remove it to shave .. Recently my Queen has told me not to wear the cage as she enjoys seeing my erection, and loves that I want her but will never have her . She laughs at my erection and calles me her useless sissy .
I'm locked 24/7 now because of Loctober, but if I'm not wearing the cage during the day I feel a bit guilty and feel motivated to put it on. Is this because I know others are locked 24/7? Peer pressure, or something internal? While I've know of male chastity for at least 35 years, it wasn't something I was motivated to explore until I wrote about it in a fictional serial story, and in a way became a fantasy that became reality. I don't fantasize about male chastity, I simply feel motivated to do it, and prefer being caged. It may be a control issue, as our male libido seems to control us more than we it.
My guess would be that it is something internal. In a similar vein, some BDSM subs claim that wearing a collar makes them feel safe or that it just felt so natural to wear it, that going without made them uncomfortable. I have some similar feeling while caged, it just feels... Right, for lack of a better word. Might be. I wouldn't go as far as to say that male libido controls us, but it does have a noticeable impact. Somehow being caged (even if self-locked and having the keys at hand) really helps with productivity and focus.