Lost enthusiam

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    Not sure what's going on...last month I ended my longest period of denial of 3 and a half weeks. It was a very intense 3 weeks of denial including lost of fantasy chats with my wife about me sucking cock, her teasing me, having lots of orgasms herself using her toys and even making me do chores wearing just bra and panties...what an amazing few weeks it was.

    After this I was rewarded with an orgasm where she flipped me upside down and made me cum on my face.

    The trouble is, since then I've lost all enthusiasm for chastity, or anything sex related at all. Not just the usual sub drop but this has lasted weeks.

    Does anyone else's desire come in waves or could there be something wrong??
     
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    I think our desires (and related sexual charge) can come and go in waves. Maybe your mind and body need a break, or something different for a while. Maybe hormones are at different levels. This can last for weeks, and can feel 'off' from what you were previously experiencing. I think at this stage, ride it out and give yourself time to recover and get ready for what's next.

    Especially after a long-duration heightened experience, the contrast can be very big.
     
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    Are you locked again?
     
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    I mean job, life, bullshit stress happens. Is it specifically you nutted on your face or external issues?
     
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    Sounds like sub drop, but there could be many other things involved.

    I don't know how you got started and what your wife's enthusiasm was at the beginning Vs now.

    Ask yourself what you want to get out of kink play. You'll know if it's something you want to sustain long term or not. No shame if your thinking about less rather than more commitment to the chastity lifestyle.

    Plenty just bring chastity into and out of their relationship for shorter periods and role play rather than lifestyle.

    Work out what's in your own mind, then have an honest conversation with you wife and ask her to be honest with you about how she feels about it all. Then you'll know what to do next.
     
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    See here I think you just cut to.the chase, as it were
     
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    And have these intervening weeks been spent locked? That bit wasn’t clear to me…
     
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    Sub drop/withdrawal symptoms.

    You were getting higher and higher dopamine hits and then BAM! it's over.

    It's roughly the same for any drug.

    It's the main reason why constantly chasing dopamine highs is bad for you, since you can never have enough, and it's also why longer periods of orgasm denial ultimately lead to permanent orgasm denial - since it's the only way to maintain that delicous horny high.
     
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    It comes in waves. The hard part is STAYING locked when you're not into it.
     
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