This year will be our 2nd year participating in Locktober. I was locked the entire month last year (no outings other than for cleaning purposes). My wife was having some health issues at the time, so it was more about being in solidarity with her and her situation vs. power exchange and kinky play. This year, I would like more kinky play, please. My wife is doing well these days. Without prompting from me, she informed me that I would be participating in Locktober 2022, and that I better get "it" out of my system beforehand. Question for the group: How do you move from "lock and forget" to "play, including tease and denial?" I'm the kinkster in this relationship. She's always been slower to go along, but usually dives completely in once she's there. I believe she just doesn't think about what's available to her in this situation. Like everyone else here, the effects of the pandemic have caused us to feel more isolated than normal, and we are looking for more fun and excitement in our lives. Locktober provides opportunities for more fun and excitement. So, ideas on how to move things along in this way?
That sounds really unhealthy. The whole point of chastity is getting out of chastity with your woman.
I’ve a different take. Your wife sounds awesome. I say count your blessings and just love the heck out of her. A LOT of Mansion members would envy you right now.
How has this Locktober gone for you? Better than last year? Have you had any orgasms? Is she teasing you at all? How much physical intimacy do you have? We started tease and denial along with chastity the first of March as therapy for a low libido and ED. I tested it out on myself with nipple play enhanced by nipple sensitization "treatments". This activity really boosted my libido and i was maturbating frequently. That's when chastity and denial came into play. When i experienced and read about how T&D would change my behavior, i told my wife about everything and asked her to hold my key. She insisted on taking over my teasing and prohibits me from playing with or teasing myself. And she's much better at it than I am. She started teasing me almost every day. She loves the change that has cone over me because I'm so attentive to her and her needs. Teasing me to the point of moaning and quivering is also very arousing to her. The importsnt thing is explaining the benefits of tease and denial, showing her what feels good to you, and then demonstrating the benefits thru your behavioral changes. Also, when I started chastity and turned the key over to her, I stopped looking at porn for stimulation. So all my sexual pleasure comes from her. And we go weeks between release and orgasms for me. It's been 8 months and she now teases me about every other day. Her orgasm rate has dropped off a bit too. But she loves being loved and has never been happier!
The simplest ideas are usually the best. So here’s my suggestion: Tell her exactly what it is you want from chastity.
This Locktober has been less awkward than last. We are both more comfortable with the day-to-day. She has done some light teasing on a few occasions, which is great! She let's me out for sex her at least once weekly and I do orgasm during those encounters. I do not have access to the key. She keeps it hidden from me the entire time. I believe the intimacy between us is stronger for a lot of reasons, but perhaps the biggest reason is that I'm so appreciative of her. While in chastity, I'm constantly aware of the device, my needs and longings and, dependence on her. Rather than ravaging her when I get the chance, it's been more of tender and intimant experience.
Today I will be edged twice! And I’m so fucking horny I hop I can stand the temptation and the pressure