I’m now 14 nights locked in but 17 since I was allowed to properly wank. I was allowed to cum last Thursday but I wasn’t allowed out the cage to do it. I didn’t really enjoy it tbf. This morning I was so desperate to have a proper wank. Probably the most frustrated I’ve ever been. I begged my wife but she refused and told me to shut up. How long was it before this frustration eases up?
Pure baby. Su btfl and 6 months no cum. You probably have a strict KH. 14 nights it's "Nothing" try to not cum 3 months.
Things will get easier if you start to fulfill your need for intimacy with other things. There is a good chance it was almost completely by orgasm with other things around it. Just remember there are other types of intimacy out there. I still feel like I have a need for some physical intimacy daily, but it really comes down to having my wife directly involved. If you feel this will help, express it to your partner. There is no greater joy in a relationship than knowing you are growing closer & you each thrive off the other's energy placed on the other. If she doesn't want to give you an orgasm, that's fine... but if she isn't helping you replace that void with something else, it is going to take a long time & she is being pretty selfish at that point... just my opinion.
You have a strict wife.. and she rightfully denies your pestering of wanting a wank off.. havent you wanked enough as a teenager..? Many others would love to trade place with you. Erection is prohibited.. period. Thank the moon that you are at least able to wank off within the cage. After a while, masturbation is no longer fun. Now go lick her pussy good and proper.. and maybe.. yes maybe she might uncage you for a full wanking off.. My george she is a goddess.. does she have a greek name..?
Seems like two weeks is a pretty commonly reported frustration peak for many guys, it takes some time for your body to adjust. If your goal is long term wear, try to avoid erections (out of the cage) completely and porn for a week or two until your frustration calms down. If your KH is willing you may try a 1-3 month total lock down. No orgasms in or out of the cage, no removal unless your cage style requires it for cleaning, and no negotiations. After years of locking for week or two at a time, a 100 day challenge (no unlocks, no orgasms) finally altered my libido and convinced my KH that 24/7/365 was best for us. Before that I was mostly topping from the bottom and dictating the terms of my lockups. Good luck
It's not a case of how long your frustrations last. It's really a case of how long it takes you to emotionally prioritize your KH, so how long it takes depends entirely on you. Once your emotional focus is on your KH, then your own frustration becomes irrelevant, you'll find that you get far more pleasure from pleasuring them, and that will satisfy you and the frustrations will fade away. Change your focus from yourself to your KH. You'll both appreciate it!
This was the hardest and the most important thing for me to learn thus far. Very well put. Another way to say it: Don't make your problems, her problems.
I think it's a combination of both @King Hippo and @bondinchas advice. Ongoing intimacy AND prioritizing your mate's pleasure. It's hard to keep the latter in focus without the former.