So I run a small company, I employee 6 people, and i find it fascinating how I can be a boss at work while my partner has me under lock and key. I always strive to be the best at what I do, but when I’m home suddenly I’m a guy who’s happy to be in an FLR. Was wondering if they’re are any others in a similar situation?
Owned my own company and had a staff of 15. Made every business decision and dealt with other companies for their business and negotiated contracts (before legal review)with supplier. Wife also owned her own company, so in many ways we were equals. As far as family, I was the coach and instructor, she was the mom and set the examples. We were into swinging and both chose our playmates, when we migrated to BDSM I was the Dom and she was the sub. Over time the roles switched and now she hold the keys. We still make joint decisions in all financial and personal matters, but she decides what my cock does.
I own a company for over 20 years, 10 employees. I am the alpha in my friends group and the soul of parties. More than that, before this girl, I was a bull for three couples. But everything changed when I met the right woman who took control in intimacy with FLR and chastity
Im the bread winner in our relationship but we still make financial and big decisions together. I wouldn’t ever want to give that up as I believe both parties should have a say. But just like you she controls my cock and I wouldn’t change it for the world.
Business owner here as well. Boss at work (wearing her belt) submissive home! Nothing makes me happier!
I used to supervised construction sites.. I dealt with dirty foul mouthed men from entire day long.. swear words are used as pronouns, nouns and verbs interchangably.. i wore hard hat, jacket and boots at work.. once home i a little sub-husband who is naked, docile and with only a penis cage on. I sold off my business and moved behind the scene doing the almost the same thing dealing with the same people. My wife wears the power suit at work and the pants at home now.
Not at all. I have never felt a stronger connection with someone and I have never been more emotionally fulfilled. It took more than 10 years to get here. Like Thomas (who wrote before me) in the early years I was the dom and she was the sub, until she was seduced by the feeling and benefits of power, then the roles changed. We make all the financial decisions and for the good running of the house together, but the "protocol" in the relationship, the approach and the dynamics are only her decisions. The only regret is that it didn't happen sooner.
I also feel when your making decisions all day, which can be very stressful. It’s nice to go home and not have that burden.
Being a business owner is fine, but it's not the only scenario. You can be alpha appearing to the public and sub in the bedroom in many situations. And I don't think that makes you a switch - just discreet.
This resonates with me. Likewise, I can see us switching roles in play time as well as real life in some areas. Similar in the family dynamics you describe. At the end of the day, it seems to me like everything's up in the air. Key thing (no pun intended) is she decides what ...her...cock does. So far in our exploration, that has proven to be a huge shift in our dynamic.
This is a very, very common dynamic with men who are required to be or appear alpha in the world, and need the stress relief or soul-baring of a submissive intimate home life.
No, I am permanently a beta, at work I go where I am told to go and do what I have to do, it doesn’t bother me, I have no desire to be in charge, or to be management, I enjoy what I do, and then I go home to do what my madam tells me to do as well!