Hello Im Poorbaby, Relationship circumstance do not allow me to play with device Chastity. I recently learned about Honor Chastity and made it through Locktober with a reddit keyholder who really does not want to be a keyholder. I know it sounds weird and complicated. So I am on my own again and spouse is divorce level opposed . Anyone know a keyholder who would explore Honor Chastity with me. Cheers,
We tried the Honor Chastity approach a few years ago and it didn't take long for Mistress to learn that I had been "dishonorable"! That was the day before She purchased my first cage.
Many of us are obsessed with restraining ourselves due to our lack of self restraint... Having said that, in some ways many cages are far from escape proof, and serve more as a reminder or a symbol of our commitment (like a wedding ring). Perhaps in your situation a cockring or even a ribbon could serve as your "device"?
Welcome to our community. I hope you find it helpful and entertaining. Have you tried a service like Emlalock?
hmm I have on several occasions placed a hair tie around the boys. This is enough pressure to keep things let’s say a little thicker. I guess what I am hoping to find is an online friend who will take charge.
Thank you MissyB Emlalock?? No I have not tried it. My wife after finding my hidden CB6000 (now that’s a-whole other story) Is constantly looking for marks from a cage or evening looks for hiding places. At this time I do not have a cage. Wounldnt I need a device with Emlalock? I guess I am being denied because she won’t touch me
Wow, she's really that opposed to you wearing a cage? Dude, that sucks. So help me understand, what are your goals here? Most of us want to lock up because it makes us better husbands to our wives, so even if they start off uninterested, once they start seeing the results, they slowly get onboard. Is it your goal to be a better husband, or are you just looking for someone to dominate you? If it's the latter, you may need to find a pro Domme, but if it's the former, the best I can suggest is that you decide to stop masturbating because you know it's the right thing to do. I don't know if you have the will power to do that, you are a guy after all, but with no cage and no keyholder, that's all I got. Hopefully, if you remain chaste for a while and do indeed become a better husband to your wife, she may notice the difference, at which point you can let her know that it's because you've been remaining chaste (apart from if/when she initiates sex with you, of course) and then maybe (just maybe) she'll agree to up the ante with a cage.
Chaz69, You give some great advice.. The wife is against ANYTHING kinky and she relates it to porn. Im 60 and married 34 years, have seriously tried what you suggested in the past without any change in her. Discussing it with her is like an act of war. Now I just want to find someone (ONLINE) who can help me smile / laugh at myself and control my Os. I have gone through Locktober without a device. So i know I can do it. My playmate at the time was not into key holding and others have said no. Thank you for taking the time to chat. Regards PB
There is absolutely nothing wrong with honour system. I am my wife’s slave so I must obey whether I’m locked or not. Even caged these people can give themselves an orgasm so Technically we are all on the honour system. I’m sorry your wife feels that way about porn. My wife is the same way. You might start with some Spotify podcasts on fending which might open her imagination? It’s not porn if you listen it together. It’s a marital aid.
Hey slave boy thank for the chat. You know I’ve never tried that. I remember a few years ago a friend told her about a movie about a ladies book club and they read 50 shades together. I recall we came real close to watching that one Maybe because it wasn’t my idea Never happened