A little too real.

It’s an amazing turn on when your Wife takes control like that! I’ll never forget early on in our cage play, I had said something joking around but she was not in the mood for it, she called me down to our bedroom away from our kids and said very sternly….
“Get in your fucking cage immediately and give me those keys”

If you’re lucky this will really make her take total charge, and your masturbation habit will be a thing of the past. Once a strong woman realizes just how much power they truly have over us, our lives change quickly!
Enjoy each day, focus that energy on her, and don’t view the cage as a punishment but an opportunity to be the best husband for her that you can be.
Good luck to you both!

 

Even after 10 years in this lifestyle, I still remember the day it clicked for her and how quickly things changed.

 

Something many of us have learned (sometimes the hard way): being in chastity, often, is for *us*, not our KH. They may like the benefits, but it's not their kink. And it's on their mind 24x7 (the way it is for us). Most of the time, it doesn't even cross their mind; when it does, it's often a matter of indifference, other than perhaps being pleased to do something for us as a kindness. Don't talk about it all the time, don't expect her to be thinking about it all the time. Being submissive means not making everything about *your* needs and kinks.

 

same here! Although it wasn’t so much a click, and madam found male chastity first!

 

I don't get it. You all seem to complain. Better be happy. After our 3rd child was born my wife had enough of it and locked me up. After an initial period we had found the ideal lock up system and I stayed locked for over 30 years. Only for cleaning it went off and on again. Very rarely for PIV. Maybe once a year, The rest of the time my tongue had to keep her happy and fulfilled. She hass passed away, but for six more years I couldn't remove the lock, I was simply too used to it.

 

SUCCESS! You just taught her the value of chastity.

SUCCESS! She just taught you the value of chastity.

 

Sorry far your loss . I lost my first wife also.

 

My wife says she doesn't care if I masturbate, she says she masturbates too. I told her I think I might do it too much and that I now notice a change when I do it a lot, so she said "well, maybe we should lock you up" but it's still mostly on my terms. She holds the keys, but if I asked out, I doubt she would even ask why. She doesn't really even want me talking about it, at least right now. Life has a way of complicating things and we're currently dealing with a lot of upheaval combined it being the holidays. She has told me she'll consider it more when things calm down, but I already have my doubts this is ever going to be something she wants to do. Mayne that's for the best, some of the stuff I've read here absolutely terrifies me and I can't ever imagine being okay with some of the things people willingly do... or at least claim to be willing to do. I love my wife immensely, the thought of real humiliation is crippling for me.

 

i am very very sorry bout your wife as well but it rigt that being in a cage for a long long time makes it very hard to take it off. Cos it feel very funny not have it on.