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Okay those all seem like pretty negative views of your self. But no one is just that one dimensional. I often feel i have no redeaming qualities too. But with some work, I can find things about myself that are good or at least not negative. I think you need to see that part of yourself too and not just focus on what you perceive as shortcomings.

I think you should be open to other relationships, not soley on ones involving submission, as it is a pretty limited group of women who seek that. I'll also remind you that people are not just beautiful or ugly, but every where in between, and that attraction can often be more than physical appearance.

Also, if submission desires are so strong for you, you can always consider online connections or pro dominants to fill those needs.

good luck.

 

You are pretty young from what your profile says, sounds like you just need to keep an open mind & have fun. Enjoy life as it is and someone will eventually be along for the ride with you.

 

You seem unhappy with yourself.

So my question is, what are YOU doing about it.

You say your dumb, start studying.

You say you are unattractive, hit the gym.

You say your ugly, change your look.

You have no self-confidence. I was like you, then I found Martial Arts. It gave me the confidence I need to feel better about myself.

My advice would be to find a Dojo.

Martial Arts will give you confidence in yourself, will help with any negative self imagine issue and help you study.

Once you have confidence in yourself, others will take notice.

Be happy with you and THEN the rest will come.

I know because it worked for me.

If you need help finding the right one, let me know. I have over 30 years in the Martial Arts and I am sure I can find a Dojo that is the right fit for you. I will be more than happy to help you.

Iso.

 

Don't train at my gym, you will just get fat like me... but some of the ladies like it.

 

Run for Congress, you'll fit right in.

 

Just the fact that you have expressed these feelings about yourself makes think you are not dumb. Ignorance is not a lack of intelligence, intelligence is a lack of ignorance. You do not come across as an ignoramus. Give it time. ISO says a lot of good things, as well as MissyB

 

Looks matter, but not in the simple way it seems. You are not going to get looks from lots of women when you enter a bar unless you are conventionally attractive - unconventional looks filter a lot of people out. However, all that matters is that you find the small number of people who are compatible with you, so filtering is not a bad thing.

As for a real relationship serving a woman. To do that well, you need to actually develop a lot of skills, which takes time.

Skills are attractive.

It would be easier if we lived in a female directed society where males were trained from birth in all the skills needed to serve females well, but that is a fantasy. In reality, we need to get good at things on our own so that the woman we serve benefits and can have high expectations.

Learn to cook, work out how to keep a house organized and clean, find ways to practice social and communication skills. Serve women at every opportunity you get outside of the sexual realm without expecting anything in return. Be happy with being in the permanent friend zone - see it as a way to get to understand women better so that you’ll be better able to please the one who chooses you in the end. Make sure you can make a living - you don’t have to be a world class executive especially if you are younger, but at least being financially stable is attractive.

I hope this provides a helpful perspective.

 

1). Make the most of what you were given.

2). Your a young man... buff up. Girls like it.

3). Get some sun...it’s good for ya

4). Fake it til you make it.

 

I do agree with this massively I have never really been sexual with anyone. But I really enjoy serving women non-sexualy way and being thanked. When I see friends I usually try and bring some homemade flapjacks or cookies just because one of the girls calles me a sweet boy sometimes when I do it which I find extremely fulfilling.

 

If you feel like that, then maybe you need to get some real help, I wish you the best.

 

Voluntary servitude is a very big gift to give a la

The gift of service is sometimes undervalued. If you're serious about giving up control to a lady and agree to voluntary servitude I find you should cut yourself some slack.

While appearance and intelligence may be important factors I can't imagine a lady looking for a servant/slave would be up for a gorgeous model who isn't serious about committing themselves to putting her needs first.

I agree with some of the above posts in that you should also strive for some balance first in the sense of working on your self-esteem and a more positive attitude. Most people will get turned off by a negative vibe.