Do you have ideas for our idea book? My wife gets frustrated that she isn't creative enough to come up with playtime ideas. She's got the chastity and denial thing down, but lacks the imagination for fun time. (BTW, this is not a "you need to communicate better" or "do what she says" issue) We have tried having me text her ideas, but that hasn't worked out well. So while talking the other day we came up with the idea of me creating a book for her. The book will have some different outside the bedroom teases, both verbal and physical. It will also have a section for date nights or kid free days/weekends. This section will be like an a la carte menu with multiple options that she can then pick and choose things that she wants to do. (Like an app, entrée, dessert) She can then pick and choose to build a scene or plans for a weekend. She is super excited and purchased a locking diary (a little on the nose) for me to fill up with ideas.
I think this is a great idea. This IS "communicating better" if it's something she wants and has asked you to do. If you're like us, you've been fantasizing about these things since forever, while she... hasn't. So giving her a menu to work from can take some of the pressure off her and make both of you happy. What you put in it is of course going to depend on what you're into. Our "playtime" focuses heavily on bondage and our Mistress/slave roles, so if I were to make one it would include various types of restraints, various service acts, punishments, funishments, etc. I'd just take the scenarios that she seemed to enjoy the most and start with those. I think you're already on to this but you could even organize them by light/medium/heavy, how long they take, etc. to give her even more options.
Power play and some bondage/restricted movement are amazing to me. She loves the power play, but gets lost trying to come up with ideas for bondage (she's really good at keeping the cock in restraints though!). She also is trying to get over the feeling of "domme" feeling awkward or silly, which tends to go away after doing it a few times. Can't wait to start filling the book up and see what happens! My "communication" part is due to every time I ask for ideas from people it becomes a lecture about communication.
That's funny. I read a thread here yesterday regurgitating that tired one line crap on several fronts and thought the exact same thing. There are a few users here that I am convinced have "just communicate" cued permanently in their copy and paste feature. What I do with my Goddess, who does occasionally also suffer from a shortage of ideas on short notice, is keep a Dropbox file full of images, captions, and toons depicting chastity play, bondage, bdsm, and in my case, forced fem ideas that I like that only She and I can access. I use only tasteful, non gross images, so that in seeing it, She is not repulsed, obviously. We use at random given things from the images as part of our playtime together. It's worked very well in stimulating a creative feeling for Her and gives examples of things within my limits as a sub Good luck, and hey, it sounds like you need to communicate.
If she is asking for your opinion on it, just be honest and let her know what you think. I like that she is asking for your input.
I quite often send a list of possible ideas to my KH, but let her choose and adapt the idea for the session.
I have an app on my phone called Tiny Decisions. its a spin the wheel app where you can create your own tasks (the trial / demo one has dinner suggestions). I created a his and a hers list of things when we had plenty of time alone (usually if the kids were at school). I populated it with things like "full body massage 5 mins", "breast massage 2 mins", "20 whacks on butt with paddle" etc, so that when we had turns topping during bdsm style play, we had some ideas as to what to actually do and made a bit of a game of it to help keep things light hearted. The options are endless and only limited by your imagination and/or any hard limits on what is acceptable.
Just gave you one. Are you hoping to do this without putting in any of your own legwork? Should I just write your uncreative little self a list? Nah. Good luck.
There are plenty of ideas throughout this website and on various blogs. If you need help with ideas it would be best to define what you are both into and not into. We often like to use a dice to decide on session endings.
Oh I've got plenty of ideas swimming around this perverted brain of mine, but someone else might have an amazing idea too!
Internet...... its full of em...... ideas that is try reading stuff or watching stuff any you find you like ....Bingo bang on your list
It is just my opinion for you, I don't know what you like. I am almost 100% certain that if you are cooperating with your partner on wearing a cage around your penis... you can think of more than a book full of ideas to fill it with.
I do pretty much the same here. My Goddess is purely in charge and play time is up to Her; I enjoy being creative in coming up with ideas and building the instruments for Her to use for my destruction... I'll save pics & links to a file to share and right-or-wrong even surf porn for ideas and share my Favorites list (Goddess has my password). I'll often have Google a few key words that often pull up porn links such as 'wooden horse bdsm' as of late - this REALLY is research , just two nights ago I was showing @n2toys some videos & pics of mostly women riding a wooden horse as it VERY rare to find of men riding; I once again asked if my pulling up porn bothered Her - Goddess "No, it's not like you can do anything about anyway"